What to and not to do on a first date

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I want to start dating but I am going to need some tips

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--Dress appropriately for where you are going, though make sure not to overdo it.
--Bring enough money for the entire date (both of you) and any emergency.
--Do not presume you have to pay for everything, or they do. It usually can go three ways (all on you, all on them, 50/50).
--Figure which of the above feels right to do based on how well it goes and assert it before they make the decision.
--Use cologne / perfume that smells nice but isn't in your face. Make sure not to over spray. It can kill the date if that's all they can smell all evening.
--Talk to your date. And when you do, keep the conversation open.
--If you're going to a restaurant, book in advance.
--If going to the cinema, avoid action / horror / sci fi unless they're definitely into that stuff. Go for romantic comedies or plain comedies.
--Leave your phone in your pocket. Focus on your date, not your phone you can always check it in the bathroom.

Do not be afraid to be "fake". (Within reason, of course.)

If you there is a lull in the conversation or you don't know what to say, ask your date a question about him/her. It takes the pressure for making small talk off of you and sends the message you're interested in getting to know them better. Plus, a lot of the time, people love to talk about themselves.

Take her somewhere that a lot of conversation wont be needed.

Dress nice but don't over do it.

Smell good.

Open doors for her, and car doors, hold chairs for her.

Take her somewhere she will like, such as a zoo or a museum, if there is one in your area.

Do consider double dating, if you know someone who's open to double dating with you.

Keep things simple.

If you don't have enough money to pay for the both of you, ask her if she would prefer paying for herself.

Save the dinner & a movie for maybe the second or third date.

"Number 1: Ask questions, don't say anything. Because women, all they wanna do is talk about themselves, so you're just gonna let them do that. 2: Be cool. And 3: Be kind of a dick. Look, be like David Caruso in "Jade".

First ask yourself," Am I ready for a commited, long term relationship?" if you plan on dating, that is usually the purpose. If you think you are, make sure you agree to the following:

1. I can meet this person's needs without unnaturally exerting myself.

2. I have goals in life and am looking for someone to achieve those with me.

3. I like myself, and realize it's not in anyone's power to make me like myself if I don't. Only I can do that.

4. I have a list of criteria in what I consider to be my ideal companion, and have no intent on settling for anybody; I know it's better to be alone than with the wrong person.

5. If I'm not right for them, that's ok. I understand. I want them to be happy too!

If you can say yes to all of those, I wish you success! If you can't, I would ask you to look at the ones you said no to and to seek to make them a yes BEFORE you even start dating.

Either way, good luck!

Ummm... What exactly do you mean by that?

Well, on to the topic at hand. The best thing to remember is to be yourself and just relax. The more relaxed you are, the more relaxed the other will be.
What not to do:
I had one person say to me once "I have not gotten laid in a while." Do not reply with "That is your *****ing problem" no matter how badly you want to say it. By the way, I had already dated this person the year before before she called it off saying "I don't want anything serious right now." Three days later, on my Facebook news feed I read that she is in a relationship with someone else. I found out that I could never forgive her for that.

Pokelover14...whatever you do, don't bring up pokemon unless you know she's into it as well xD