Jamesy wrote:
PTSmorrow is there just something about guys taht annoys you?
Yes.
Maymac wrote:
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Other men aren't rivals, a Manly Man needs their support, they need to be 'leader of the pack' and that's about showing how tough and mean you are compared to other MANLY MEN
It's this kind of pack mentality that's pissing me off. I'm a loner and individual, not necessarily member of a group, at least if i can avoid it.
But i guess i should define it a little more clearly. Jamesy, if you're alone with another guy in a close friendship, there's not much difference to the interactions with a woman, it's a one-to-one thing. However, if another guy or a few guys join in, what you have then is not some individuals, but a pack.
In a pack, yes, they are roaring in an attempt to outshout each other. They perform strange rituals like drinking till they drop, or arm wrestling, to name just two.
There was one long-standing best friend who passed away a few years ago. Our friendship was based on common interests and we had exhilarating conversations and discussions.
Back to your OP, i suppose opening up emotionally around other guys (or one other guy) takes time and trust. First you got to get to know them. In addition, display of feelings in guys is generally a delicate matter, even today. Steve McQueen and Clint Eastwood (don't forget John Wayne!) were role models for male behavior. We have grown up with the demand to hide our feelings, especially "weak" feelings like being hurt, sad, needy and so on. The traditional stereotype for boys was, don't talk, just act!