Gay, Trans & an Aspie. Is there any hope for my love lif

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Sometimes I wonder if I was dealt the wrong cards for the game of love. First off, I have Aspergers Syndrome, which has always made it hard for me to keep relationships. It always gets to the point where my quirks frustrate my partner and they end up breaking up with me, cutting ties with me, or cheating on me. This alone makes dating frustrating and painful, because it always feels like I'm walking on eggshells, in order to avoid the inevitable. But it doesn't end there. I am also a Lesbian, and a male to female transgender ( transitioning full time since March), which severely reduces the number of dateable people, not to mention makes it difficult to meet the people who would actually be interested in me.

I'm worried that I'm never going to find true love (or even a date for that matter, now that I'm transitioning) and that I'm going to spend my life alone. People keep on telling that there is someone out there for everyone, but It often feels like that someone for me is a needle in a haystack. It's just so overwhelming.

1 ) I have aspergers syndrome.
2 ) I am also FTM transgender (beginning transition).
3 ) Sometimes love finds you and you do not find it. It would not hurt to seek it out.
4 ) You are only twenty-four. Many people find someone in their late twenties.
5 ) Many transmen do get dates. Most straight women would date a transman.
6 ) If you are a fully transitioned FTM and like women then you are not considered gay. You are considered straight by both the LGBT community and the professional medical community.
7 ) If you need someone to talk to, then feel free to message me.
8 ) When happiness is fleeting, you must give chase. That is why it is called the pursuit of happiness.
9 ) Most people (Neurotypical and not) have people break up with them, cheat on them, or another spouse or date mishappening.
10 ) If you give up now, you will definitely not find that person you are looking for.

You need to look at this link of a transman who found the love of his life at twenty-six years old at this linked website: http://www.ftmtransition.com/aboutme/aboutme.html

I am M to F TG and transitioned ages ago, nothing has made me happier, as for love I think it is greatly overrated, it is an unpleasant mental illness I am quite happy without.

techn0teen, I think you will find that radicalrachel85 is an MTF, not FTM.

As for the original question, I suggest that you throw out the statistics. While the odds might be long, it really doesn't matter how long the odds are when you do find a woman that you can form a meaningful relationship with.

keep looking! i have personally always found MtoF and FtoM trans people very sexy. so don't give up - i have some unusual tastes but i can't be the only person out there...

i've written the following as "ScandinParis" at the site Gayaspie:

"u know, i find it to be a miracle that i've a boyfriend, since i haven't had any friend all my life, so it was quite amazing to suddenly have a bf.
i realise it's fragile, but miracles can happen anyway (in my case by the internet).

at the same time i'm kind of socially desperate still, i've always been that way since shortly after beginning school i think, maybe especially since i began my studies (20/21/22)

i don't know how many times i've hoped i'd learn how to cope after getting together with bf, but i'm still searching for a calmer mind/existence

so there's no shortway to paradise
(so indeed it's a good thing not seeing a bf as a "must" - it won't be a miracle solution, even though u love each other and all)"

I'm just gay, but I think love gives moments of "miracle" in a general way, and thus it's not limited to any particular "category".

im bi trans and aspie, and i found someone! my husband is bi genderqueer and aspie himself so it all works well for us ^^