How to proceed to 'The Next Step'

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I believe that plenty of autistics (me included) have problems with a second meeting. From my experience I find that the first meeting goes well enough but can't get a second meeting.
Your thoughts and opinions.

Some of it is luck of the draw because maybe only a third (?) of first dates lead to a second date.

I sometimes struggle with the balance between being "on" and trying without awkwardly trying too hard.

One of the bigger things I had a problem with was thinking in those terms. I may have watched too many rom coms but where Im from (ireland but hears austraily is similare) there arent many formal dates.

Here asking a girl to dinner is weird but drinking staying at her place is not.
one of the biggest things I've learned is you need to have a cover story. to pretend as though you are not dating.

its wierd and duplicitus but can save a.lot of hartache.

So, it sounds almost like pre-dating, which is fine.

I'm from Ireland and have no idea how it's done, mainly since it's been a long time since I last met a girl I wanted to go out with. As in, around five years...

All, I can say: I like how they do it in Ireland. (I don't drink, though).

So, maybe some coffee, as in

"Would you like to grab a cup of coffee?"

And, whether the person says yes or says no, either way is perfectly okay.