Problem: I do not want to "spend" time with anyone

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I have had two affairs previously but I am afraid if there ever will be third one. The reason is that I feel that I need to have almost 100% control on how I use my hours. I do not want to spend time with anyone. I have all the time lots of things to do and doing some things that people usually do with their partners would probably just get me bored and would make me to dislike the affair.

Though I am not sure how I would feel about that if I had a partner who was right for me. But the idea about making compromises on the use of time feels very difficult. I would like to have an affair where I could be with some person without actually doing so much things with her.

Are there others who have similar feelings? What do you think about this "problem"?

Maybe you just want an F-Buddy?

I really do not have anything against having a real affair. After all it seems to be difficult or impossible to me to develop any other type of friendship. Anyway, I guess having an f-buddy is not a realistic option for AS person since girls who just want to have sex want their partner to be vivid personalities.

Im an aspie girl my F-buddy is an Aspie guy... go figure!! !

Same here and i felt always pissed off by the need to discuss things which are of course by their nature. As an example, a gf. usually expects to go shopping together, to plan meals and leisure activities, she will b***h if you prefer to spend the weekend with your computer, wants you to familiarize with her best friend, family, to appear as a couple, and talk, talk, talk.

My solution is to have affairs with married women since i'm so pissed by the above crap. Their hb's can do all that social stuff, i'm having fun with them once or twice a week.

Best experience ever, though, was an online online affair with a woman who was obviously capable for a compartmentalized lifestyle and sex life as well. However, that's not easy to find. Most women expect the social stuff.