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12 Dec 2011, 4:10 pm

When a girl show admiration to guys who are the complete opposite of you (whether physically, character or socially) , shouldn't be that be a super obvious sign that you're not her type and therefore it's even useless to try with her?

If not, then how can you tell?

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12 Dec 2011, 4:14 pm

Ugh. This is tricky, but yes, it can mean you are not her type. However, many women don't have a specific type, but if she says things like: "a guys should be X", or "a hot guy is Y", and you are neither, it's a sign you're not her type. Which is fine, because you don't want to be with someone who has this specific requirements for a partner.

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12 Dec 2011, 4:21 pm

Yeah, but it's not always that simple, based on past experiences (and surprisingly), some of the girls I knew have ended up with guys who are nothing like the types they were yearning for.

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12 Dec 2011, 4:25 pm

When an NT female does not really take an interest in the conversation as all she talks about herself and a boyfriend which is an NT female way of saying "Get Lost." which is an instant tensing sign that you bore her and she is looking for a way out of it. Only that she is hiding it and playing along.

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12 Dec 2011, 4:26 pm

There was one person I had my heart set on for years, but she said I was unable to communicate because I asked for relationship advice--one time. She also thought people should never need emotional support--based only on the fact that she never asks for it.

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12 Dec 2011, 4:30 pm

I wouldn't pay much attention to who a woman hangs all over. It always amazes me when people think they know my 'type' and get it ALLLLL wrong.

All because they based it on past partners of mine.

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12 Dec 2011, 4:45 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

I wouldn't pay much attention to who a woman hangs all over. It always amazes me when people think they know my 'type' and get it ALLLLL wrong.

All because they based it on past partners of mine.

Thinking who's your type based on your past partners is one thing.

But hearing them verbally saying what type they like is a totally different thing.

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12 Dec 2011, 4:46 pm

the kind of men i am comfortable joking around with or who i might admire for certain reasons are not the only guys i want to date (in fact i might not be romantically interested in them at all). so if i say that i am super-impressed that some guy sold his invention to a big company, i am not communicating that i want to date an ambitious entrepreneur. or if i say how nice a man looks in a hooded sweatshirt i am not imagining that any love interest should wear one.

soemtimes chemistry happens with someone who doesn't seem like an obvious choice. it's hard to predict.

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12 Dec 2011, 4:48 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

I wouldn't pay much attention to who a woman hangs all over. It always amazes me when people think they know my 'type' and get it ALLLLL wrong.

All because they based it on past partners of mine.

Thinking who's your type based on your past partners is one thing.

But hearing them verbally saying what type they like is a totally different thing.

I just don't have a type, but as I understand it some friends and family members have discouraged perfectly nice people from trying to be with me because they supposedly weren't my type.

It gets frustrating.

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12 Dec 2011, 4:51 pm

Past partners aren't usually a reliable way of determining type.

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12 Dec 2011, 4:54 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

I agree with this wholeheartedly. When it comes to compatibility and mutual attraction (intellectual, physical, spiritual, ideological), I think it must be a natural progression - it either is or it is not. You can not force or coerce the required physical attraction and the meeting of the minds and hearts!

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12 Dec 2011, 5:00 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Yeah, but it's not always that simple, based on past experiences (and surprisingly), some of the girls I knew have ended up with guys who are nothing like the types they were yearning for.

It's been my experience that girls I known describe characteristics in a guy that I have but those same women end up turning me down & instead go for guys who meet very few of the characteristics they claim to want. It's very frustrating trying to understand it

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12 Dec 2011, 5:07 pm

its up to her to decide wether your her type or not if i where you i would just sit back and enjoy the ride

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12 Dec 2011, 5:07 pm

nick007 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Yeah, but it's not always that simple, based on past experiences (and surprisingly), some of the girls I knew have ended up with guys who are nothing like the types they were yearning for.

See, here's the thing. Very few people have a complete understanding of who is compatible and what they really want/need from a partner. Then there's chemistry and often times people have issues that blind them to certain things.

It's really a matter of just putting yourself out there if you want to be with someone.

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12 Dec 2011, 5:15 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

nick007 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Yeah, but it's not always that simple, based on past experiences (and surprisingly), some of the girls I knew have ended up with guys who are nothing like the types they were yearning for.

I have put myself out there & I've been rejected every time except 1ce. I understand compatibility can be important but I don't really know what chemistry is. I want someone who will give me a real chance & put forth effort to make it work. I like someone when I think she likes me.

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12 Dec 2011, 5:41 pm

nick007 wrote:

I understand compatibility can be important but I don't really know what chemistry is. I want someone who will give me a real chance & put forth effort to make it work. I like someone when I think she likes me.

maybe you're mistake is just going for any girl rather than the right one/s
choose girls you like

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