16 Dec 2011, 6:43 am
I'm right back to square ONE...confused as hell, and I'm not freaken happy about it.
Just when I thought I had the answer, it bounces back off the wall, and hits me squarely on the head 
My ex is an Aspie, ok I can live with that, no problem, but what's the deal with "narcisstic love addiction? " What kind of combination is that? Apparently the "narcissistic love addicted" is only concerned with his own happiness, and does not show any signs of love addiction, until you decide to leave him, then all hell breaks loose, and show he is terribly hooked and can become physically abusive.
He did cheat on me before, but now I found out, his addiction is getting worse with porno, craigslist prostitutes, nude photos of himself, and text messages to women. He keeps changing all the photos of women on his facebook page. The women are on rotation shifts in his book.
I know I worked very hard to make it work, again... I am a "Love Addict" type "Codependent Love Addict"
I rescue, save, care for, love too much, and afraid of being left.... typical doormat. NOT a good combination with the narcissistic love addict! 
He won't change, but I will, and it won't be to accommodate his addiction, or make mine worse.
Now we can only be friends, without intimacy. I've done all I can do.
16 Dec 2011, 12:50 pm
16 Dec 2011, 1:29 pm
16 Dec 2011, 1:56 pm
16 Dec 2011, 5:58 pm
18 Dec 2011, 1:48 am
18 Dec 2011, 7:55 am
Just when I thought I had the answer, it bounces back off the wall, and hits me squarely on the head
My ex is an Aspie, ok I can live with that, no problem, but what's the deal with "narcisstic love addiction? " What kind of combination is that? Apparently the "narcissistic love addicted" is only concerned with his own happiness, and does not show any signs of love addiction, until you decide to leave him, then all hell breaks loose, and show he is terribly hooked and can become physically abusive.
He did cheat on me before, but now I found out, his addiction is getting worse with porno, craigslist prostitutes, nude photos of himself, and text messages to women. He keeps changing all the photos of women on his facebook page. The women are on rotation shifts in his book.
I know I worked very hard to make it work, again... I am a "Love Addict" type "Codependent Love Addict"
I rescue, save, care for, love too much, and afraid of being left.... typical doormat. NOT a good combination with the narcissistic love addict!
He won't change, but I will, and it won't be to accommodate his addiction, or make mine worse.
Now we can only be friends, without intimacy. I've done all I can do.
its also not good to love someone who isnt capable of having a HEALTHY relationship with. if this is the case you should distance yourself from him.
oh, and if he continues to abuse you AT ALL, you should DEFINITELY be done with him 100%.
18 Dec 2011, 4:32 pm
19 Dec 2011, 3:43 am
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It's not so easy when narcissism is involved, at first all the signs of AS showed up, however other issues surfaced. The narcissist is very smart and cunning, he will do anything, and pretend he is autistic to get sympathy, help, collaboration, assistance, money... will appear humble; he executes false modesty but that's a trap to get more narcissist supply, he needs it like a drug addict needs a fix.
Im embarrased, I don't know what else to write about it. There is no cure. Some have told me to just leave. I've turned our intimate relationship into a just friends from a distance. I can't deal with that stuff, he is so sick.
