A Great Expectation

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One of my former friends told me before, "I want one of the finest women the world could offer".

I smiled, then asked him" Do you think such woman will want you? And why should she want you?"he could not answer.

Yet he is still a virgin even now.

Has anybody here ever have such wishes when you were younger?

Furthermore, how could we ever get to know ourselves?

And what should we expect?

We all have unreasonable expectations when we are younger and we dont know sh*t(most kids want to grow up to be rich without wanting to work hard...).

As time passes most people start realizing the mistake they made and start lowering their expectations, some dont.

You put an example there of a male but theres also plenty of females looking for a white prince and whatnot when they are average-looking... I could go on but you get my point.

I did have unreasonable expectations about love/what a relationship was(I blame the amount of chick flicks my sisters put me through when I was young) but after spending some time out in the real world you see that life isnt a movie and you have to work hard to make relationships work...

I dont think we can come up with an universal standard of what to expect from relationships. Everyone is looking for different kind of relationships and what can be expected in some contradicts the others...

Leagues.

It's very important to know to which league you belong.

Your question was a smart one, he should wake up.

I see no point in being obsessed with finding a girl who's "the finest women the world could offer" as opposed to trying to find someone who's right for you. It's stupid and it shows you've got too much of a big ego for you own good, and unless you're a celebrity, you can't get away with that.

But how to determine your league?

Most of the guys I've dated weren't in "my league", So what?

I used to have unrealistic expectations about job and traveling and stuff. I wanted to see the whole world, and to travel a lot.

I agree

However, how about my other two questions?

Hmm...I would not mention my materialistic point of view anymore, although I still have such opinions

Another point which is perhaps a more important factor in determining your league than wealth, etc,I have only known it recently: Your capability of love.There are so many people whom are fear of commitment, etc. I would perhaps value someones highly because they have the courage of love and there is strength in their love.

Moreover, to me, I just thought another point which is at least has the same importance as the capability of love: intelligence.

Asp-Z is right. How many times have I been on a date with a girl who I thought was good looking and turned out to be completely ridiculous? It's all about finding someone who can walk beside you.

I've actually only been on two dates with really good looking girls, but they were both really insane

Not only about looking...let's find out more factors..

That's quite a difficult question. Often, other people see and like things about us which we cannot see ourselves, and you also have to account for personal taste. Thus, I could say easily that I am kind, generous, friendly, and forgiving, all of which are true, but to pick the one thing which attracts another person to me would be much harder.