Failure and jealousy

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I will tell you a bit about my love life.

It has never existed. I thought that was because I had aspergers but I am wrong.
I read this forum and become jealous. I feel emotions like anger,depression and jealousy which I wish I did not feel.
The higher functioning aspies have taken over this entire forum as well as the adult and woman's forum.
They should have a place too but I wish it would not depress me so much.
I wish they could make a failure forum or a lower functioning aspie forum for people like me.

When I here about aspies that are younger than me with boyfriends it pisses me off. It makes me feel like a failure and I think about killing myself.
I have these stupid daydreams about relationships. They are nearly perfect but I know that they are not real.
Sometimes I wonder if I have something worse than aspergers because others seem to have an easier social life than me.
Do girls conform to society just to get a date? That must be the only F**king way. In my experience aspergers prevents you from proper social interaction

Can anyone relate? Please don't talk about your relationship. I want to here from other failures like myself.

I've had desires and dreams about women all the time since I was young, in first grade. I've always been girls friends at the most even if they said they would date me because I've been afraid.

I feel exactly as you do.

To OP: yeah I can relate. It's why I avoid forums like L&D and others, but then I've pretty much given up on the subject.

misery loves company. it is good to be with others with the same problems. maybe "the haven" would be a better forum for folks like us.

I've seen lots of post here by Aspie guys who never had girlfriends OP so I don't think this place is dominated by more functionals but I have noticed that it's a lot less common to see post by Aspie girls who cant get boyfriends or dates than Aspie guys who cant so I can understand why that would make you feel bad. Perhaps you could try to meet someone on this site. There's lots of guys here who are looking including me

I know exactly how you feel. It's a horrible feeling. In my case I just do not have the confidence as I get walked all over so much.

Of course, some people here are under the misconception that a relationship will instantly solve every problem they have and fill a void inside of themselves which is in most cases, opposite to the truth. Relationships require discipline, time, devotion and sometimes if you aren't compatible with the person you are dating, you will end up in a relationship that isn't rewarding in the long run. I would tell you to make use of the time you have, be thankful you aren't in an emotionally draining relationship and that you have time to pursue other pursuits such as your academic and financial pursuits, they are what count the most.

I wouldn't have a lesser opinion if I liked a girl and later found out she didn't have any relationship experience, you have a naivety that other people who have been hurt in relationships don't have.