Looking for feedback--OKCupid profile

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Here is the link to my OKCupid profile. If there is anything that you think can be improved upon, let me know.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/timhomer1

seems good, tim. i might be turned off by your extreme political views, but you're just being honest.

you need some pics showing yourself from a differant angle and one outdoors.

your body type isn't average.

You need to include something in your good at part that excludes retro gaming. Eg a personality thing. "I am good at getting outdoors and trying new things"

Also it can be seen as condisending to say you want someone with a college degree. Lots of people dont like that.

It's good, the only changes I would make is state that you're looking for an educated woman rather than a one with a college degree. And also, may be it's just me, but I'd never go for a guy who thinks he's "good looking" just because it sounds a bit too confident but then I know people who like that. Plus,everyone's different.

Hope you have some luck!

you are good looking, so you won't have a problem in that department. though okc is 70% about photos, i suggest you upload 5 more photos, each different, for example, one with your family, one doing something you love.

as said above, i would edit the sentence about your political views (take out the anarchist part to sound less extreme).

for the "message me if", take out the part about the college degree and last bit about the career, and just add something concise:
such as "if you are educated and career-oriented."

your self-summary, the first part, should be longer than 4 sentences. And it certainly shouldn't start with your college major.

add more to it:

1. i came here because....
2. i like a woman who is....
3. i believe the most important part of a human relationship is...

you've established yourself as a smart guy in this profile, but you also need to establish yourself as emotionally satisfying, which is why you should be cautious that you aren't too academic in your profile.

was my feedback helpful?

I made the suggested changes.

Thanks everyone!

Have you been on OKCupid? I seem to remember WOMEN who were Tim's size who put their body type as average

you shoulndt put food as your number one thing or they will think you are fat

Not bad, but could be better. Here's mine that I created just as an experiment, in case you want anything to compare yours to or take ideas from: Xenon697

I am currently fighting the urge to reactivate my OkCupid account. It did not work before: there is no reason to believe it will work now. But we have a saying here in Brazil, which roughly translates as "Hope is the last to die".

I do not even know why I am currently thinking about dating; given my robot-like empathy and inability to like/dislike people, there is nothing I could possibly gain (or give) from a relationship.

Anyway, getting back on topic: your profile is very good, Tim_Tex. I honestly cannot see anything wrong with it. If I ever give in to the Dark Side ( ) and reactivate my profile, I think I will be taking some ideas from you and Zokk, if you do not mind.

What I think is great about your profile is that it contains lots of real information. You come across as an energetic, enthusiastic person with a full life, not needy, who genuinely wants to meet someone and is prepared to put himself out there. You also manage to convey a great deal of honesty, which is quite a trick and would surely attract a great deal of positive attention.

Here are my tweaking suggestions:

• Avoid reviewing yourself. To describe yourself as 'charismatic' in the first paragraph doesn't work. This word can only be used by someone else to describe you, because it is a subjective judgment of your outward impact on them, i.e. whether you have charmed them or not. So find a different, accurate adjective that conveys actual information.
• 'Talkative' cuts both ways, and could imply you monologue someone's head off. How about 'sociable' or 'I enjoy conversation', something that is personality rather than behaviour-driven?
• You've spoken about your qualifications, but forgotten to say anything about your employment situation or intentions.
• Where you refer to keeping healthy, add something about how you are working on fitness. You look like a big bloke in the photo, and that could raise a few question marks about where your size came from and where it is going unless you cover it properly.
• The paragraph that starts "I am a very funny, good-looking, studious ...", again could read as a self-review. This would be fixed if you inserted words like "People tell me [I am very funny, good-looking, etc]."
• Check for repetitions - I picked up duplication of "funny" - again, this is best kept for other people's assessments of what you're like.
• Any personal habits (pro or con) that are essential to you in the other person, e.g. re alcohol, tobacco, pets?

One last thought - if it is an essential yes/no filter for you, you might want to spell out at the beginning of the religion paragraph whether or not it is essential to you that she has a religion.

[I think it's fine to mention anarchist leanings, because it adds dimensionality to an otherwise fairly materialistic impression, but I didn't see it in your profile - poor reading on my part, or already edited out maybe? ]

Good luck.

It seamed a bit terse.

1. Employment. I am currently unemployed, but only due to bad luck due to the economy. I have an already well-established career path, but was laid off and it's been difficult finding more work. Unfortunately, there are people who will not differentiate between those people and lazy slackers with no direction.

2. The pic was taken just 3 weeks ago, but I have since began a diet.

3. I deleted the political reference because (a) I don't have requirements for someone in that regard, and (b) virtually everybody with the same interests are liberal and I am not, and there are people who consider any non-left-leaning views to constitute bigotry and intolerance to those who adhere to them, even if those people are perfectly tolerant.

Hey Tim

*luv ya man*
*good ol elbow belly hug*
*and pat on the back and all that*

NoW

Not very certain about all the "It's All About Me Routine"
Maybe some women go for that, though that is not my experience.
Your profile reeks of "I" this & "I" that - to the point that it sounds like "Hurray 4 Me 2 hell with U"
There again - as given the diversity of humans, perhaps there is the 1 out there somewhere just right 4U

Please keep in mind - I have Never read a Guys profile whatsoever, so the fact is,
there is no reference, only raw opinion. That being said on new years day,
I reserve the obvious excuse. Hey dude, at least you are going for it.

God Bless

Happy New Year

Hey, Da - in real life and conversations, you are spot on; keep the ego under control. But for an online dating profile, I'm thinking it's a bit different. Speaking as a woman who has never done online dating (and well outside the present demographic), this can only be a hunch rather than direct experience. But I would imagine women feeling a bit nervous about the whole thing would be more trustful about contacting a bloke if they can see maximum information upfront about him. So I say put in as much about self as possible. Then get your (female) friends to check it over for you, because only they can tell you if it gives a fair impression of what you are like in real life. The more accurately you convey your real-life self (not just objective data, but the overall impression as well), the better chance of flushing out real-life potential mates.

[edit - de-Australianate vocabulary]

Last edited by HighPlateau on 01 Jan 2012, 4:54 am, edited 1 time in total.

Speaking as a very politically opinionated person, I found that when you like someone that ideology tends to become pretty secondary pretty quickly. I can't speak so much to the religion side, it's never been my bag personally so I can't really comment on if it drops away as well when you meet the right person, but I know I'd hate to miss out on a potentially life changing relationship because of a belief system.

As for photos, I'd suggest doing some obviously posed and goofy ones, those always worked really well for me in the online dating arena. You know that old writer's adage about showing and not telling? A funny picture shows that you have a good sense of humor rather than just claiming that you do, and it doesn't hurt a bit if you're good looking too.

Also, resist the urge to put your whole life in the profile, getting to know each other is what the date is for.