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I don't know how. Any help, please. And I'm thinking of deleting my account on here too.

Last edited by Tarralikitak on 19 Feb 2012, 4:25 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I think maybe it would be best for you & for him if you quit being fronds. You can not accept that he does not want anything more & the feelings you have are causing lots of problems on the friendship. You will contineu to have problems until you can accept that he does not want anything more & that is causing you to get hurt & take it out on him

Some men prefer casual socializing and sex. They like you, they just don't want to make the commitment. It only works if you're comfortable with that (and that he probably has other sexual partners.)

It is clear from your behavior that what you really want is some kind of a relationship, and not just a casual hook up with a friend. Dan has made it clear that he is not interested in getting that involved, so the two of you are not a match. Because you want more than he is willing to give, there is no point in trying to maintain a friendship at this time, as it will only drive you crazy, and him, too. In the future, don't be in such a hurry to jump in the sack with someone. Take the time to get to know a potential partner better first, and also, to find out what both you and the potential partner want in a relationship. Haste makes waste. There is no reason to rush blindly into a relationship and plenty of reasons to be more careful. You also need to take better care of your own emotional state. Jumping in the sack with someone without knowing where either of you stands on the issue of relationships is only hurting you.

You have found that casual hook-ups don't provide you with any stability or comfort, so don't do it any more. And don't expect a real relationship on the first date with someone. That takes time to develop. You need to be patient, and in the meantime just turn to friends for comfort and non-intimate companionship.

Dude's a jerk. You're an idiot/naive for jumping in the sack with him so early and expecting things to play out differently.

How is he a jerk He was clear about his intentions from the start

As soon as he got what he wanted he started to ignore/shun her. Like their friendship meant nothing. He also probably plays and sleep around with other women, that automatically makes him a jerk.

I got the impression that she was pushing him for a relationship when she had 1st agreed with him there wasn't going to be one. She either was dishonest with him in the beginning or what she wanted changed; either way she's better off moving on

Doesn't really matter. Dude's still a womanizing jerk that will get whats coming to him. I hate people like that so much.

I'm getting help because I find I do hate myself despite how far I've come. I'm probably too emotionally unstable right now to date or see anybody. I have been depressed and I told him I am impulsive.

No MR20 you're the jerk for sitting on your high horse pretending to be holier then thou whilst calling the guy a 'womanising jerk', how can you say that, d'you know him personally? You'll never get very far in life with that attitude.

The guy has clearly stated beforehand that he didn't want a relationship which the OP originally agreed to. She then gets the hump when she doesn't get what she wants. He ignored her because he sussed out that the OP wasn't being completely truthful when she said she didn't want a relationship then she tries to cast him as the bad guy because she couldn't accept he only wanted to be friends with or without benefits. I don't see what he has done wrong here, he never lied to the OP and nobody forced her to get involved with him.

The smartest thing the OP can do is forget about him and move on since its clear she wants more then what he is offering her.

Last edited by Daemonic-Jackal on 19 Feb 2012, 4:09 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I'm not a jerk. The dude is a sleazebag, douche, jerk, selfish, arrogant prick, who doesn't have self control. He's a sinner and will get whats coming to him. If you agree with him then that makes you a jerk as well.

Don't like my attitude, you don't have to read what I post.

I never said I agreed with him but I still don't see what makes him such a sinner......for what exactly, being honest and not deliberately misleading the op? It was her who wasn't being entirely truthful. If sticking to your word is a crime then we're all destined for hell.

You've clearly got issues, go see a doctor and get some therapy.

go to hell.


I don't have any issues, it's clearly you people that have problems

Because we're not redneck bible bashers who don't condemn sex before marriage?

As for hell, see you down there, looking forward to seeing you being made Lucifer's b*tch.

This guy did NOTHING wrong. Sorry OP, but you set yourself up for failure. I'm not trying to be mean, but you need to work on yourself first before getting involved with someone. I've been in your situation before, and I kick myself for not valuing and respecting myself more in the past.