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I found this very attractive girl on OkC, nearby me and messaged her. It took her 3 months to get back to me. We messaged and got along really well, we had a lot in common. She seemed very eager for us to meet. We both went to a busy cafe, we got a glimpse of each other, both got lost and her phone died. She later texted to apologize and proposed we would likely meet a week later, or the week after if she was busy. I replied "okay", but in my mind I really wasn't expecting this to work out.

She deleted me on FB. I texted her "i saw you deleted me on facebook. i get the point, but i want to ask: did i do anything wrong to you or is this impersonal". She replied that it wasn't my her life was an emotional rollercoaster, shes going through a lot now and she cleared out a lot of her contacts. I texted back "i understand. i hope you get better" and deleted her from my phone.

I suspect that she initially wanted to meet me but then changed her mind (due to other factors), but who knows.

Bad first impression or is there something I'm not looking at?

She's most likely a b***h. you dodged a bullet. Forget her.

An unreliable b***h. Either way it was never meant to be etc. Forget about it.

Or....things could be exactly as she says and she might not want to date anyone right now. I don't think she's just straight out dodging you, as if she was, she'd simply not answer your message ever. That's the way it's been for my "friends" who've dodged me, they just never answer back and that's that. I commend her for at least answering you.

It probably isn't anything you actually did, and even in the off chance it is, she's not telling you what it is, so it's not something for you to worry over, as without knowing it, you can't change it.

I've had this problem before, too. A lot of NT people just seem to be really unresponsive, even when you take the time to compose a nice, well-written email and such. This happens to me on Facebook and on dating sites. Nobody seems to really take the time to make anything work anymore. It's really frustrating.

im suspecting anxiety overload,

when im trying to meet people that ive met online, i find it best to set up a situation were theyre with friends they know(and also bring some of my friends along as well)
you tend to hav less "ditchers" that way because they hav friends to make them comfortable

deleting you on facebook is just way that many people deal with things they feel like theyve screwed up on,
kinda like when you write a paper, read it, hate how it sounds, crumple it up and throw it on the floor

its not the most mature way of dealing with people, but it seems like the most common

ether way, srry it went the way it did

yeah, zinnel i'd agree.

its not easy to confront people like that, but i dont know what she was going through so i cant judge her.

right now, i'm not beating myself up at all about it.

I had an online dating profile for a minute when I and my boyfriend were broken up. I went so far as to initiate conversation with a cute, smart, charming, interesting dude. Then I backed out an hour beforehand because I had a sudden "WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING I AM SO NOT OVER MY EX" epiphany. He was nice about it.