What about polyamory

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What about polyamory? Why just 1?

You may be straight, gay bisexual, asexual .... whatever. I don't believe monogamy is a "sexual orientation", its just a choice (imposed or not by society).

Besides, monogamy doesn't seem to work that great any way. Have you seen the failure rates?

Just not my thing. I'd rather give one person my all than give 5 people 20%.

I am a serial monogamist. But different strokes for different folks - people should do what makes them happy - chimes their bell so to speak!

I would try it if the opportunity arose. My wife seems to enjoy the idea of me having a second wife..



I just have a problem with the current US laws.... God forbid I die, my second wife would be screwed.

I myself can't be focused on anyone at once but the object of my affections, but I would not have a problem if they cared for another person as well.

this is a subject of interest mainly to the highest of high-functioning folk on the spectrum. to the unfortunate perpetually INCEL/singleton remainder, it is only a source of pain and frustration, of acute feelings of rejection, of being forcibly excluded from the party, of being given the cold shoulder by the smug children of a greater god. i didn't mean to rain on anybody's parade. but to be honest, if only i were born with the right stuff, i too would opt to indulge my randy senses with multiple nubile physiques. but i could not truly and deeply love more than one, it takes a different genetic complement to be able to give one's heart to more than one person [as opposed to merely liking all of them a lot]. i couldn't [in good conscience] really use anybody for the moment anymore than i would like anybody to use me for the moment. i NEED loyalty above all else. all i have to offer anybody else is my loyal heart. but it seems in this world, that and $4 will get me a latte at starbucks and little more. what a world.

It's nice, but requires a lot of communication, openness and honesty. I'm also quite willing to compromise it: if my partner is uncomfortable with the idea of me having another relationship, I don't.

I've gone back and forth on polyamory. I had no objections until I hit my mid-twenties; that's also when I became single for the first time in my adult life. I have no objections to open relationships. Sex is sex. I also have a documented tendency to be polyamorous (to truly love multiple individuals simultaneously), so I know it is possible. I do have reservations about two things: I hesitate to engage when a person's partner is described as a "primary." That sounds like I'd be "secondary," and I need to be equal in a relationship. My other hesitation comes from the complicated dynamics of the relationship. Where do I fit in if you have the love of your life at your side?

theoretically, adding people, has a stabilizing effect in the group.

I wouldn't say it's a choice or a sexual orientation. It's just a variable in personality. Personally, I doubt I could do it, but I have nothing against those who do.

I'd never do it. I don't really understand it though. To me if you love one person then you shouldn't want someone else as well. shmeh

I have a wife and a girlfriend. My girlfriend has a boyfriend. It works for us, but it's not for everyone. It basically just creates a whole new set of positives and negatives that has to be worked through. The positives make up for the negatives in my opinion, but it's not for everyone. I do think that monogamy shouldn't be imposed on people the way it is.

I couldn't do it, I'm just not oriented that way. Even in friendship, I don't like having a lot of friends, I just like to stick with one person.

I don't mind the idea of ME having more than one boyfriend.

Honestly the idea seems kinda dumb to me. But whatever, im not to be in one. Do as you like so long as all parties know whats up, otherwise thats called cheating

I'm not particularly interested. Been there, and I really don't want it again. Just one person is good enough for me.