Success or love?

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My AS friend challenged me with this question and I'd like to bring it here to see what others would choose:

If a divine being came to you and told you could could have one of two things; either be a very successful person in your desired line of work, or be in a happy lasting relationship.

What would you choose and why?

Love all the way. Happines = succes. Succes being limited to a career is a ret*d definition imo.
If you can love then you are succesfull. Having the ability to feel good doing anything that is true succes. Feeling good because you win is easy and anyone can do it. Feeling good because you lost shows true character.

Success for me, because I wont feel like a functioning person just because I found a mate. Also, my definition of success is to reform the world into something better than it is. If that means no love for me, so be it.

I consider love a nice to have for sure, but given a certainty of the two? Success.
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-Sidenote: Would the relationship option be to brainwash the other person? Thats taking away free choice of an induvidual if so..

By most objective measures, I'm reasonably successful: I own outright a few properties here in the UK and have a basic salary that's pushing me towards the highest tax rate (>£150K / US$237,570 / €179,990), and am still relatively young.

That aside, I'd still give a sizeable proportion of it up to have love although my recent experience has been that those I like seem to be less interested in me and more interested in "material comfort".

Granted either would be "perfect", I'd have to go with love. Depending on what you mean by success, I really don't care much for being famous or rich or whatever else. So long as I can simply get by, that'd be fine.

I'd chose relationship because I feel successful when I have someone who loves & cares about me. Work when I was working was kind of a distraction from my loneliness; I was working over 55hours a week when WalMart let because I felt really lonely when I was home not doing anything.

I know I left the definition for success very open but I figured I had to since people's own idea of success varies so much. My friend's success would be making a profound discovery in the world of microbiology. His success has more to do with having tangible proof of his intelligence, instead of merely being told that he is intelligent by a loved one. I can imagine others see success differently. Now the thing about this question: you are guaranteed a happy relationship but you are not guaranteed happiness through your success.

I was relatively successful in my job before my social anxiety became so bad that I couldn't go to work anymore, but it didn't do me much good. Job success is not the same as social success or happiness. I'd much rather have a loving, lasting relationship.

Finding love and being successful are part of the same thing, for me at least. I think this because you can't really be successful in life if no one loves you, or at least likes you.

Love - I can get success without my even more divine counterpart's interference.

Love. I haven't been lucky enough to find anyone in my nearly 30 years, so it's high on my list of priorities. All you need is love.

I couldn't be successful in anything else if I did not have love.

At the moment I have neither.

Like most people replying to this thread I would prefer love. The joy from work success would fade quickly when arriving home to an empty house without anyone to share it with.