I just can't do it...

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Well, I'm back again to give you another sob story of how I can't talk to girls or will ever have the ability to get a girls number and have strictly a friend.

I don't know what it is about but girls get creeped out by me. I honestly don't do anything that would give anyone that impression, but I just have noticed that girls that I try talking to are friendly for a bit but then just feel creeped out by me.

For example, 1 girl I talked to last semester started getting personal and mentioned how she was skipping class to get a puppy. She then showed me pictures the next day and I would talk to her when I saw her. Now she's in class with me this semester and she hardly acknowledges me. I don't know if its because she has more friends in that class or what but she doesn't engage conversation with me anymore.

Then another girl who I talked to on the first day last semester was laughing at my jokes and everything. Now she doesn't even look my way and I just have an odd feeling that she thinks I'm a creep or something. I made eye contact with her once during my class and she quickly turned away and kind of gave a funny look like she was disgusted with me.

I really don't get it anymore. It's like the changing of semesters changed their opinion on me. I try and try and try and try but I can't quite find the right piece to finish the puzzle, I haven't for 20 years and the time keeps tickin, and I'm getting sick and tired of it. It's gotten to the point where I'm bitter about everything and I can't f'in stand the joke that is Valentine's Day.

I sometimes do good initially and then hit a wall, not knowing how to disclose that I'm a loner, have intense intellectual interests, etc. Then people pick up on the fact that I'm hiding something, and that's worse than the specific of what I'm hiding.

I think sometimes my introductory skills might be too practiced. That in zen like fashion it might be better to be patchy throughout Go figure.

I've also had some success making a conscious decision to turn down my internal censor so that the default setting is that it's probable okay to go ahead and say it anyway, unless it clearly jumps out at me as inappropriate.

PS One or both of these young ladies might think you did not follow through by asking her out?

It sounds like some of their friends have been gossiping about you. I got t A LOT in HS & College. A lot of times I could hear exactly what was being said because no one knew how sharp my hearing actually was..
Its hurtful, but hey, if they are easily swayed by public opinion/peer pressure, forget about them.

Sincerely,
Matthew

In college, I couldn't talk to women unless I knew what the subject of the conversation was ahead of time. No spontaneity whatsoever, I had to preplan anything I was going to say and the delivery ahead of time. Of course NT guys had no problem with this and did circles around me socially. I could be articulate but I always sounded like I was giving a speech instead of just conversing.