Never Actually Approached A Girl

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It's interesting because I do not approach girls and make the first move. i may be really interested but i show 0 interested due to a fear of rejection. but if they show interest then i move in. they seem to really like my unique personality often citing me as "adorable".

its interesting that i am somewhat known as the ladies man in my group of my friends despite my aspergers syndrome. maybe girls like my apparent innocence lol.

Maybe it's also your appearance. I certainly don't find you attractive, but you have hair that tends to go with people who females find attractive. Or maybe it's your innocence--how old are you? That may play a part in it.

Okay, my anxiety disorder is kicking in: I started wondering if maybe because of your innocence the females saw you as someone they could take advantage of! My ex definitely saw that in me, and he tried to kill me! Be cautious.

OK, so where's the problem here?

Some girls do the move themselves upon you, the more you merge yourself around random females you don't know unintentionally, the bigger the chance someone like that shows up will be.

I never have either (or did I once just to see? Yeah, maybe). Cool girls come to me nonetheless. It's certainly not looks.

Do you have many girl friends (not in the romantic way)? From what I could observe of my friends, the "ladies men" are always the ones who have many female friends.

I would say your appearance helps, too (judging by your avatar, you are good looking), but since many people tell me I am good looking and, despite that, no women approach me, I am more inclined to believe looks are not really important. But it certainly helps, if you have whatever else it is that makes women feel attracted by men.

Am I making sense?

Lucky fella. My personality is usually interpreted by women as meaning I'm a creep or a weirdo, despite my attempts to fit in.

I would give all my finger and toe nails to be liked for who i am, as you seem to be.

Some women do like to take initiative, some like for other people to take it. I'm comfortable making the first move but that doesn't mean I didn't get sick of needing to do it EVERY time over the course of the last 10 years!