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It started in June. We met in a Dutch asperger chatroom. We talked a lot in the chatroom, in private and on MSN, and then we phoned each other for hours and hours. She said many sweet things, including sexual things. I went on holiday. So did she. We said that we were really really going to miss each other. The whole holiday I looked forward to meeting up with her shortly after the holiday. For six weeks I longed for her, both romantically and sexually. Shortly after the holiday, she sent a mail saying: "I will soon meet the new big love in my life, and it's not you". She'd met another guy in the same chatroom inbetween. So I got really disappointed, because she was not going to be a love for me after all. Later she said that she had found me irritating all the time from the start. I got really sad. Later still she said that she still found me sweet and that we were going to meet up. We did meet up. She came to my place. I very much enjoyed her visit. At the end of the day we cuddled. I wanted more, but she didn't. And she didn't really have attention for me. She was chatting with two guys that she fancied while I was cuddling with her. I wanted to be more intimate with her than just cuddling. She knew that, it was obvious from my body. I knew that she didn't want it and I respected her limits, however hard it was. So then we said goodbye. Later, she said, "I didn't feel anything during the cuddling, I felt nothing". I got sad, because I thought that she had enjoyed it too. And a week ago she went further with saying mean things. Two weeks before she visited me, she had visited the other guy that I mentioned. She told me: "he paid my railway ticket to visit him and got something in return. You did not pay my railway ticket for me". I got mad and said, don't say that kind of things to me. A few minutes later she went even further. She said: "you're just frustated because I had sex with him and not with you". I've ignored and blocked her since she said that. I don't want to talk with her.

Sorry to hear that, she isnt worth worryign about there are better girls out there waiting for you im sure. i understand how you feel, try to move on and forget about her and focus on good things if you can. hugs

if all what u r saying is true then:

she is a bitc*

and she 's money and d**** sucker

sorry but this is the truth of her

but I still want her

she has problems/issues

Dude she is playing you like a violin.

She is deliberately manipulating your emotions and damaging your self confidence so she can control you, forget her, she will bring you nothing but misery, there are plenty of other girls out there more deserving of your attention.

I was unaware that people who have aspergers could be so dishonest,manipulitive and cruel.I guess I have a bad habit of "idealizing" asperger honesty but this chick truely sounds like a "psycopath".I do not understand this mindset...what kind of person can be so cruel and what kind of person can still have feelings for someone who is so cruel.Was she very attractive?I have often noticed that guys I know will put up with the worst kind of behavior from the best looking women.I know the stereotype is that women go for the "bad boys" but I have noticed the same in many men....as long as the girl is cute.

hmmm...narcasist maybe? Run and don't look back...

Ok, so she didn't have sex with you because you didn't buy her train ticket?
It sounds like she just wants you to buy her things. She wants you for your money. Here in the USA, we call those "gold diggers". AVOID them at any and all costs.

Hmmm. This is a game. Sometimes girls act like this when they are testing you to see how you hold up during their outrageous behaviors or comments. She's trying to push your buttons, to see how you respond. She's testing your boundaries to see what kind of guy you are. If you become morally outraged by her sexual comments, then you show yourself as a prude. If you say nothing in response to her comments, then you show yourself as someone who will tolerate any kind of abuse. The trick is to match her outrageous behavior with honesty, integrity and the truth of how you really believe and take care of your own personal boundaries and show yourself as someone who can meet his own needs, without reliance on her.

She's testing you. This is the way that immature people act when they haven't developed communication skills and the ability to be emotionally intimate.

^^ Well she revealed herself in such test......

Why waste time and energy and hurt/drain yourself emotionally to prove you are worthy?

You know you are worthy! Of anything you can imagine! Let such ignorant people enjoy a life in which the only people they're close to, are those they hurt the most.

I'm sorry to hear that!

I hope things improve with you soon!

Is there a reason you always chime in with the most inane, empty comments Jason? Just wondering, like.

Sometimes, I don't know what to say because I feel so sorry to hear about certain situations.