What is your weight range in dating?

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21 Feb 2012, 8:35 am

I think the point being made is that unrealistic expectations are unfair because they are based on unrealistic photos and they are unfair to people with genes that aren't conventionally desirable to the media or give the wrong impression to the younger generation, attraction in itself is subjective and based on preference. However the media will dictate what is conventionally attractive and most of the time, that is shown in an unrealistic airbrushed and edited photograph or presentation.

Of course, if someone doesn't have great skin or a desirable body naturally, I don't think there is anything wrong with make up or enhancing their features if it gives them confidence, however I don't think people should feel socially pressurized to be a certain way or fit a conventional standard of beauty. People will inject themselves and go to all sorts of extremes to look aesthetically desirable because the media determines it, they aren't concerned about how it will affect them later in life, they want it now because of conventional society, that's why there are so many adverts on how to look younger ten years younger in one week or the six minute six pack abs workout, we live in a quick fix society that is only concerned with the now.



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21 Feb 2012, 8:41 am

I have a waist to hip ratio similar to the first (possibly edited) photo if not more dramatic. Unfortunately she is much more blessed in the upstairs area than I :P


Now to answer the title question: So far my actual dating history weight range has been 90-220 with the lowest being a 90 lb shorter-than-me twig of a boy and the largest being my current husband, a former weight lifter who is about 5'11 and now has a good-sized gut since he stopped lifting weights :P and my first husband was somewhere in the middle at 6'1 and 170 or something? So I'm pretty much all over the map in terms of what I actually date. Weight has little to nothing to do with my choice of partners, though.

In terms of purely physical preference (which is what the OP seems to be about), I prefer the small thin men. Lean and athletic is good too. I don't like bulky and muscular at all. I'm a big fan of a long, toned neck. I'd say this guy (Milo Ventimiglia) is about my ideal and his neck is to die for.

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Tom Welling was also incredible when he was in his 20's. He bulked up too much after that and I didn't care for it.


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21 Feb 2012, 8:50 am

well i prefer women to be around my weight or less. Not just for beautys sake but also im a bit afraid of women larger than me.



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21 Feb 2012, 8:52 am

techstepgenr8tion wrote:
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hahaha i was trying so hard not to say anything. i didn't notice the size of her head, but i DID notice the photoshopped waistline (hint: look at the uneven horizon line and the broken waves behind her). sorry Wolfheart, her figure doesn't exist (at least, not on her).

Hate to burst the heart-warming morality lesson but I think that's beach sand behind her waist.

someone was paying close attention :wink:



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21 Feb 2012, 9:00 am

Wolfheart wrote:
I think the point being made is that unrealistic expectations are unfair because they are based on unrealistic photos and they are unfair to people with genes that aren't conventionally desirable to the media or give the wrong impression to the younger generation, attraction in itself is subjective and based on preference. However the media will dictate what is conventionally attractive and most of the time, that is shown in an unrealistic airbrushed and edited photograph or presentation.


Oh, I agree the media goes to far. Here in the US though I seem to notice is that the reaction is getting closer to 'why try' and further letting themselves go. Then again though I don't fully get the sense that 'good' figures are as unnatural as they are unnatural relative to our culture's serving sizes and social habits.

This is a bit of a farce and more for humor than anything but I think it does have a grain of truth:

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21 Feb 2012, 9:04 am

Where did they get that pic of me for the US shot? :lol: :(



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21 Feb 2012, 9:06 am

Oh stop! That actually does look like someone I know, definitely not you though.


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21 Feb 2012, 9:12 am

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Oh stop! That actually does look like someone I know, definitely not you though.


Lol, you're right. I don't wear sweat pants in public. However, I did look like that at one point in time. I'm a little smaller now and I would like to be as small as that European chick in the other shot. Even if I did, I don't think I'd let my thong show like that. :lol:



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21 Feb 2012, 9:16 am

Imo, all those people who freak out about beauty models being unrealistic need to chill out. There's nothing wrong with enjoying an ideal (though possibly unattainable for most of us) body. It's when someone is so obsessed with that ideal that they can't find normal people attractive or they subject themselves to thousands of surgeries trying to achieve it themselves is when there's a problem. And the problem lies with the obsessed person, not the beautiful person or the person who took/photoshopped the picture. Pretty ladies sell magazines and clothes, it's a fact of human nature.


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21 Feb 2012, 9:16 am

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Oh stop! That actually does look like someone I know, definitely not you though.


Lol, you're right. I don't wear sweat pants in public. However, I did look like that at one point in time. I'm a little smaller now and I would like to be as small as that European chick in the other shot. Even if I did, I don't think I'd let my thong show like that. :lol:

Yeah, it looked a bit try-hard didn't it.


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21 Feb 2012, 9:40 am

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Oh stop! That actually does look like someone I know, definitely not you though.


Lol, you're right. I don't wear sweat pants in public. However, I did look like that at one point in time. I'm a little smaller now and I would like to be as small as that European chick in the other shot. Even if I did, I don't think I'd let my thong show like that. :lol:

Yeah, it looked a bit try-hard didn't it.


Yeah, it's as if the outfit was designed to not cover her body. Leaving a bit to the imagination is much sexier, in my opinion. :P



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21 Feb 2012, 9:44 am

techstepgenr8tion wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
I think the point being made is that unrealistic expectations are unfair because they are based on unrealistic photos and they are unfair to people with genes that aren't conventionally desirable to the media or give the wrong impression to the younger generation, attraction in itself is subjective and based on preference. However the media will dictate what is conventionally attractive and most of the time, that is shown in an unrealistic airbrushed and edited photograph or presentation.


Oh, I agree the media goes to far. Here in the US though I seem to notice is that the reaction is getting closer to 'why try' and further letting themselves go. Then again though I don't fully get the sense that 'good' figures are as unnatural as they are unnatural relative to our culture's serving sizes and social habits.

This is a bit of a farce and more for humor than anything but I think it does have a grain of truth:

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from my experience in europe so far the comparison is more like this
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just as many overweight here than there.



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21 Feb 2012, 9:47 am

Are those both Hugh Laurie XD


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21 Feb 2012, 9:52 am

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Yeah, it's as if the outfit was designed to not cover her body. Leaving a bit to the imagination is much sexier, in my opinion. :P

I might get shot for saying this but a) I think she's compensating for not having much of a face, b) When I see a girl hanging the pants down hoochie-style its barely differentiable from a guy with a scull-cap and a toy gun in his pocket hanging the top of his pants below his junk - trashy either way.


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21 Feb 2012, 9:53 am

myth wrote:
Are those both Hugh Laurie XD


yea, its the point of the picture. One side claiming superiority when in reality its the same for both.