I can't do it.....why it has to be so hard?

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Sighs, being a final year student for the uni and college this year. Massive virgin and bachelor is still going on since grad of high school. I can't get a date since I dont try too much. I can't do it because rejections still going on and on and on during a same time. Why no one likes me? I thought I am worthful kind of person?

I am happy all the time, i am fit, healthy, money, good grades, support and everything you can think of something like God loves me everything. I can't list all the benefits because I have plenty or enough.

But why girls always so avoid me? Is it aspergers? Or my visual of hearing aids ? Is it my hearing loss since i couldnt understand them and they couldnt understand me?

Seriously why its so extremely hard to get a girlfriend that appears to be easy to get one for other guys? Whats wrong with me? Why the hell Earth is making me the best virgin and bachelor in the world? Should I win trillion of dollars for being like that?

I am being so sick of being nothing for them.

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Like what?

Im not even shy kind of person. Im very open and step up for everyone.

I wanted to know why its so hard for me to get a date, compared its easier for other guys? They get girls all the time, not me. Why not me? I don't do criminal stuff, BS stuff and that like those guys who girls go all the time instead.

Am I dying? I can't see the light at end of the tunnel, its too long. Why I living hell in the dark?

I haven't had a GF either, Matty, and I'm nearly 30. I always wondered what I was doing wrong with girls to keep getting rejected all the time. I also don't do anything criminal or bad-boy-ish. I always played by the rules, in fact Studied hard, got my Masters degree, and now I'm an English teacher. The girls are not exactly falling at my feet, but you just have to find something else in life you are passionate about, and work towards. Don't let what other people think of you define who you are. I might never get a girlfriend, but that doesn't make me a bad person. Or you.

I want to be me. Not you and others.

I dont want to be late bloomer. I am better than that! Seriously!

I am so feeling forced and pressured to be a super virgin and bachelor. I can't do anything that make it work. I feel so annoyed.

So shocked, surprised and disappointed about this.

Oh believe me, it does hurt. It sucks not being able to get a girlfriend, especially at my age. I didn't want to be a late bloomer, either, but here I am.

Don't be like me. The good news is, you're still young. You have that advantage. You still have all of your twenties to meet someone. It gets much harder with age.

I have developed sort of an apathetic view about it. Course I would like a girlfriend. But I finally got a job, so interaction with other people. If I feel the opportunity then great, but I am okay to wait a bit. That being said I am planning on asking a girl at work to the movies. If she says no, or "I have a boyfriend" then that is fine. I will just say it wasn't a date, or "okay, don't worry about it"

I am more concerned with making friends than having a girlfriend.

Geeze it hurts me a lot more and more after one year to another. Like 19 becomes 20 becomes 21 as now. As becoming 25 to 30 it gets worse than now. Becoming so worried and panicking. I want to be like my cousins, my sister and few of my friends who just recently got married. They are between 20 and 27. They been in relationships good and stuff. Why I can't be like them since I am good guy and have standards?

Whats wrong with me? I NEED TO KNOW WHY! Its depressing and making me feel like a new born baby about it. I want to get out of this horrible trap. Why I am not deserving it? I told you guys, I AM HAPPY PERSON! The ways why it makes me stay virgin and bachelor for much longer for an innocent person like me its making me severely worried and panic about the time.

Final year of uni, heading off to working holiday to US for 12months from December this year, then come back for career. That doesn't seem going to get me married and that kind of stuff. This is because I am still a same person as I finishing off uni. That hurts me alot.

Why girls can't trust me? I don't do s**t and that.

Your going to the States for 12 months? You're graduating with your Degree? That's awesome! Maybe the new environment will help get you in a positive mind frame and things will start falling into place.

Oh right? Not sure according to lack of social skills from me. I really bad at it and have no idea about girls actions and reactions. Im quite blank minded about them.