successful marriage thread

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Anybody here that is happily married? I'm curious... especially if there are any male AS/female NT marriages here. Also, do you have children together? I would like to hear of happy stories that give hope.

My marriage is pretty successful, I think... male NT, female AS (which is not as common as the other way around, from what I understand).

We only recently figured out that me being AS pretty much explains every issue we've had in our marriage. So, we're working through some things now. I didn't realize that there were any issues, actually I thought everything was great, but we're doing well working things out. Two weeks ago things were pretty bad though. It would've been far better if I'd figured out exactly why I have always been different before getting married or a few years ago, but at least we did figure it out eventually.

We have three children and have been married 8 years.

I am an AS Man, married to a primarily NT woman, for the past 3.5 years, and we have 3 children together, one who is likely an Aspie as well

There have been so many tough roads we've traveled to get to where we are, but our marriage is strong, our trust in each other infinite, and while my official diagnosis has only come in the last 6 months, my aspergers has definitely been a source of much frustration for both sides, though now knowing what we are dealing with, is allowing us to save ourselves a lot of extra frustration, and for both of us to make compromises we might not have been willing to before.

Honestly, the biggest problems tend to be from me being unable to "read her mind" and take queues from nonverbal communication, which dammit just isn't fair to my wife as she has joked, thats half the fun of being a woman in a relationship >:)

But yeah, hope that helps and answers some of your questions

I'd probably do really well in a relationship with an AS male given that I get furious when people try to "read my mind" or (as I view it) "put words into my mouth" and the fact that other women like it and even *expect* it absolutely blows my mind!

I dont know whether I am Aspie for sure but i have other psychological impairments like depression, erotomania, borderline personality.
I have been married last 9 years initial years were tough i couldnt adjust and wanted to walk out primarily because of my hubby who i think is somewhat Aspie but majorly NT he had bad spending habit and his formula was earn and burn.
Then after being separated for few days he mended his ways and we started saving money. Also his mom has some major mental issues whenever she comes here there are problems between my hubby and me.
Apart from that one problem i face is that my hubby has good social skills and he makes friends easily whereas i am the opposite he is the star of any party whereas i corner statue of the party....socially we are misfit.
He is not knowledgeable about the world and never tries to guide me which again leads me to learn things hard way around.
But 9 years later with one kid we are working on it.

I'm an Aspie male married to a NT female. We've been married a little over five years and have two kids. I would categorize our marriage as solid, although there have been recent events which have shaken that somewhat and required that I step up tremendously in learning the impact that me having AS has on our relationship. I would definitely say that, like any marriage, ours has definite moments where it is very challenging (and not always because of AS, that's the fun of pairing two imperfect individuals no matter what the diagnosis), but overall I am extremely happy in it. Glad to find others who are working on developing a healthy, happy marriage.