Did she give me her # to let me know she isn't interested?

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Ok so that Japanese woman is acting really strange. I know that some women are totally crazy and love mind games on plenty of fish...starting to think she is another one of those types. Both times I talked with her, she had different profile photos uploaded (our chats were 2 days in a row and she only has 1 photo up at most). Then last night I didn't chat with her at all. Then this morning I noticed that her profile had no pic at all. I don't understand why she would say text me anytime and then completely ignore all my texts and calls. When I first talked with her, she gave me a real number because her voice matched her voice on the webcam mic. She seemed really sweet and was talking about how I'm handsome, sexy, etc. Then the next day, I text her good morning, did you get a good rest? She doesn't even reply? If she was so interested in me, you would think she would get back to me. I am starting to think that she is just playing head games right? It is rather depressing because our last conversation, sounded like she was possibly open to meeting me. Its like she ignores my texts and calls, but if I see her on pof and message her, she responds and chats with me. I think she is not interested in meeting or is just too shy and sticks to online chats, rather than meeting in person. Yesterday, she ignored my texts, but responded to me on pof. I just hope that she doesn't start ignoring me on pof as well...I am mainly asking the women on here...why would a woman tell me I'm really handsome and sexy and tell me to text her anytime and then ignore my texts/calls? (I am not blowing up her phone. I only texted her 2 times on different mornings and called once today.) Does this sound like a mind game or does she just possibly seem shy? Because she isn't shy at all on pof. This is driving me crazy. Somebody please help me out?

P.S. I checked her and saw a new photo up on her profile like 10 min. ago and checked again just now. No photo. So she is going online to change it, often, but not staying online. I can't understand her behavior. All her photos don't show her face as well. Just her body. Does she sound like she is just being an idiot and messing with peoples' minds?

my first instinct tells me that she is a con artist most probably a guy acting like a girl.
her intentions are not right she will make you desperate and then borrow some money etc from you and disappear.

Here in India there are many friendship clubs in which the caller sweet talks then promises to meet etc and finally they borrow huge
amount of money and vanish. Recently it was in papers that a police officer as been conned by such a club.

Be extra careful of people online they are ususally not what we think they are. I had encountered a guy online
who turned out to be totally dangerous and a sex pest.

i don't really know.

maybe she lost interest, maybe she felt embarrassed that she spoke so openly about sex with you, maybe she talked to someone else she decided to hook up with, maybe she is just testing out the waters and decided not to hook up with anyone, maybe she is married and her husband unexpectedly came home from a business trip.... there are tons of possibilities.

i don't think that changing her profile pic is significant, as she might just be trying different configurations.

you said on the other thread that you mutually decided to take it slower. did you discuss that on PoF?

Ok well I didn't mention in the other thread that aside from sex, we did talk about a lot of other things and we share a lot of the same interests and passions. I not only think she is beautiful, but she seems like a good match for me. So yeah, at first I was mainly focused on sex, but now after talking to her another time, I got to know her a little more. I would like to date her and see where things go...but then she just started ignoring me lol. Well its strange because last time I chatted with her on pof, she mentioned that she got my text in the afternoon and then said sorry that she didn't reply to it. Seems like a totally normal apology, but it was the tone she said this in that bothered me. It sounded as if she were not sorry at all and actually trying to test my patience. The is the best way I can explain it. I think she is just playing games and is into strange webcam/phone sex...maybe even more than real life...or she is just too nervous to have actual sex with a foreigner. She told me she was nervous meeting me because I'm a foreigner. So there is that...

Alienboy, everything you say about her makes me think "attention whore". I know that's not a nice label, but it's what people call someone who deliberately piques someone's interest without intending to give of themselves, too (I don't mean sexually).

The flightiness, the back-and-forth between perceived close intimacy and coldness, the change in profile pictures, etc., just scream "attention whore" to me.

In other words, it's all well and good while you're the main course, but when she wants an appetizer or dessert, you get pushed to the side of the plate. And eventually off the plate altogether.

The internet is RIFE with this kind of person. The internet was really MADE for this kind of person.

I hope I'm wrong, and that you haven't invested a bunch of time and hope in a relationship that won't go anywhere. Even if you were only in it for the sex (which is sounded like), this kind of bait-and-switch is demoralizing.

You mentioned she just only likes to flirt on plenty of fish, that could mean she only wants attention and isn't interested in a serious relationship or meeting. She may be testing the waters or she might be using you to get positive reaffirmation in herself without ever having to meet you or commit to a relationship with you.

The best thing you can do is not fixate on one girl and try to talk to different girls on plenty of fish otherwise you might be setting yourself up for disappointment with this one.