28 Mar 2012, 7:30 pm
I would like to enlist fellow WP-members about a situation I encountered this afternoon. I had just attended a lecture and afterwards I waited outside, because a friend of mine was still chatting with his girlfriend. I stood alone, and suddenly a girl I had seen once before asked me, out of the blue:
She: Hello, what is your name?
Me: My name is ..., what's yours?
She: My name is ....Would you like to meet up for drinks sometime?
Me (stupefied):Yes, sure, shall we exchange our phone numbers?
She: Sure, my number is ......
Me: Ok, I've written it down, my number is ........
Then we stood there, both a little awkward and shy.
Me: Ok, I'll send you a message, I'll see you around.
She: Ok, have a nice day!
This has never happened to me before, so I'm a bit confused. She is pretty attractive and sweetlooking, but I've only once talked to her briefly, when we had to copy some papers for an upcoming lecture. I made one funny comment about William S. Burrough's The Naked Lunch, that was all we've ever said to each other until this afternoon. I really do not get why she asked me to have a drink, and maybe I am overreacting at the moment, but I do not consider myself to be an alpha male or someone who exudes confidence and/or charisma. I do not really have much confidence. In fact, I'm terribly shy, especially concerning the other sex. I've asked someone about her and she said that she was very shy too, but still I had no clue why she asked me out, out of the blue.
Anyway, I wanted to ask you, fellow WP-members, for advice. What should I do and what shouldn't I do? Is it OK to tell her about my Autism-diagnosis on the first date (or would that seem like I was making up excuses for awkward behaviour)? Where should I take her? Upon reading this, it seems like a childish question, but this whole dating thing is entirely new to me and I think (according to our taste in literature and music) we might be a good match.
Any help would be useful, I hope my long story is clear and does not bore you 
xx Josef K
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28 Mar 2012, 7:38 pm
28 Mar 2012, 8:44 pm
28 Mar 2012, 8:50 pm
She: Hello, what is your name?
Me: My name is ..., what's yours?
She: My name is ....Would you like to meet up for drinks sometime?
Me (stupefied):Yes, sure, shall we exchange our phone numbers?
She: Sure, my number is ......
Me: Ok, I've written it down, my number is ........
Then we stood there, both a little awkward and shy.
Me: Ok, I'll send you a message, I'll see you around.
She: Ok, have a nice day!
This has never happened to me before, so I'm a bit confused. She is pretty attractive and sweetlooking, but I've only once talked to her briefly, when we had to copy some papers for an upcoming lecture. I made one funny comment about William S. Burrough's The Naked Lunch, that was all we've ever said to each other until this afternoon. I really do not get why she asked me to have a drink, and maybe I am overreacting at the moment, but I do not consider myself to be an alpha male or someone who exudes confidence and/or charisma. I do not really have much confidence. In fact, I'm terribly shy, especially concerning the other sex. I've asked someone about her and she said that she was very shy too, but still I had no clue why she asked me out, out of the blue.
Anyway, I wanted to ask you, fellow WP-members, for advice. What should I do and what shouldn't I do? Is it OK to tell her about my Autism-diagnosis on the first date (or would that seem like I was making up excuses for awkward behaviour)? Where should I take her? Upon reading this, it seems like a childish question, but this whole dating thing is entirely new to me and I think (according to our taste in literature and music) we might be a good match.
Any help would be useful, I hope my long story is clear and does not bore you
xx Josef K
Don't mention the autism.
28 Mar 2012, 8:53 pm
28 Mar 2012, 9:15 pm
She: Hello, what is your name?
Me: My name is ..., what's yours?
She: My name is ....Would you like to meet up for drinks sometime?
Me (stupefied):Yes, sure, shall we exchange our phone numbers?
She: Sure, my number is ......
Me: Ok, I've written it down, my number is ........
Then we stood there, both a little awkward and shy.
Me: Ok, I'll send you a message, I'll see you around.
She: Ok, have a nice day!
This has never happened to me before, so I'm a bit confused. She is pretty attractive and sweetlooking, but I've only once talked to her briefly, when we had to copy some papers for an upcoming lecture. I made one funny comment about William S. Burrough's The Naked Lunch, that was all we've ever said to each other until this afternoon. I really do not get why she asked me to have a drink, and maybe I am overreacting at the moment, but I do not consider myself to be an alpha male or someone who exudes confidence and/or charisma. I do not really have much confidence. In fact, I'm terribly shy, especially concerning the other sex. I've asked someone about her and she said that she was very shy too, but still I had no clue why she asked me out, out of the blue.
Anyway, I wanted to ask you, fellow WP-members, for advice. What should I do and what shouldn't I do? Is it OK to tell her about my Autism-diagnosis on the first date (or would that seem like I was making up excuses for awkward behaviour)? Where should I take her? Upon reading this, it seems like a childish question, but this whole dating thing is entirely new to me and I think (according to our taste in literature and music) we might be a good match.
Any help would be useful, I hope my long story is clear and does not bore you
xx Josef K
Don't mention the autism.
What he said.
You barely know her, don't tell her stuff that deep. It's like telling her the sh***y car you have was your dead grandmothers. From what I get so far, your probably going to do something awkward. Just tell her your awkward, that'll explain everything (hopefully).
28 Mar 2012, 9:41 pm
29 Mar 2012, 2:14 am
