So what kind of things should I talk about with Normal women

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When I talk to women I always run out of things to say within the first like 5 minutes, and there is always awkward silence, unless it happens to be a geek topic of my choice. Geek topics could include string theory, computers, overclocking, boot loaders, history of computers, military history, history of Early Christianity (i.e like Bart Ehrman) sci-fi, etc.

I have a hard time initiating and maintaining things normal women like to talk about. How do you answer a question like what do you do for fun? or how was your day?

I have a theory that one factor why NT woman don’t find science interesting is because NT woman use socialising as a way of bonding. What is said doesn’t need any real informational value at all, with the exception of how to climb the social pecking order. If you talk about String Theories to a NT as a way of bonding and a girl with greater understanding of the subject comes a long, wouldn’t you have more interest in her?

You should find out what the woman is interested in, and than talk to her about her interests.

Hmmn, personally I used to try use my knowledge and intelligence to gain a womans favour, but this happened to attract the sort of woman that only wanted to see me fail..

I understand talking about their interests..

What I don't understand is how to tell in the beginning if someone is lieing to me or not, I've always trusted people without judgement but this is now the 5th time I've been left post-relationship wondering how someone could want to hurt me that much.

Don't take this as advice, but what I'm gonna do from now on, is just be myself, and if no one likes it, then so be it.

I think CockneyRebel has given some good advice. Women are comfortable talking about emotions, we are generally not. I have set of rules that I apply in conversation. For example:

- I should only talk briefly about my interests and what I did today, and then I should ask a question that shows I'm interested in the other person (e.g. What do you do for work? What do you like to do at the weekends? ) - nothing too personal though

The challenge is to think of the follow-up questions. There's often a key word or phrase in her response that could be explored further. Follow-up questions might include, "How did that make you feel?" This needs to be done in a way that doesn't come across as an interview. The effect can be dramatic, as the woman is getting the impression that you're interested in her. She will then ask you similar questions. Again the rule is to keep your replies brief, but informative.

Over the past two years I've been making a conscious effort to remember good conversation material, personal stories, funny lines, etc. Nowdays I even keep a text file on my computer with them all. It takes no effort - it's simply a matter of making habbit out of it. It made little difference at first, but once I had enough material, it became extremely helpful.

Here are a few:
- If we're walking to road, and the lights change and the walk light comes on as soon as we arrive, I say "I did that".
- If there's any mention of phones, I tell the person how I keep getting calls from dissapointed guys expecting to speak to an Alison (whoever she is, she's giving guys my number).
- If someone mentions a particular place to eat at my uni, I mention how it's gross that they always offer gravy on your meal, even when I order nothing but vegetables.

This way you can keep the small talk going long enough to get to know the person, and move on to more important conversation. Also, making someone laugh it always a pleasure

Get her to talk about herself. "So you...?"

NT women luv it when you find them interesting ! ! This might make you grit your teeth, but pretend that you're interviewing them. "I noticed those shoes, what type are they? They look very pretty on you, quite stylish. Oh, they're blahdy blah shoes, and you know blahdy blah on TV always wears them, and I just love the way blahdy blah looks." "Really? You, know I've never seen that show. Do you watch it regularly? "Oh, I tape it every week, you know blahdy blah blah happened and it was sooo creepy the way that blahdy blah blah...

Oh to hell with it. Tell her you're studying string theory.
Date girls from your physics classes, even if they have a crew-cut and wear glasses that went out of fashion 20 years ago. At least they know what string theory is .....

You could try talk about each others family and workplace and what she likes to do for fun. Don´t talk about your specific hobbies unless she asks you first. It´s also very important to smile and look interested. Find out if she wants to meet you again.

Flatter her and talk about things that you yourself find utterly boring and dull. That'd be a good start.

Well, pay her compliment, tell her that she looks lovely for example, ask ehr hwo ehr day went and how she feels, make sure you look interested and keep a smile on your face. Thats what i do.

Hi,
I'm reading this between classes, thanks folks!

The best thing to do, in my opinion, is to find a girl who's into the exact same thing you are.