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Should a couple start a thread together to work on an issue?
Yes, great idea! 45%  45%  [ 5 ]
No, bad idea 36%  36%  [ 4 ]
Not sure 18%  18%  [ 2 ]
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Aharon
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31 Mar 2012, 11:06 am

Sound interesting? I noticed many people get on here and talk about their issues about their partner, but has a couple ever done this together in a thread, where others could comment and make suggestions, give advice, and help resolve the issue. I pitched the idea to my wife and she is considering it. Of course names and places would not be revealed, it would be completely anonymous. What do you think?


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31 Mar 2012, 11:08 am

posters taking sides and just going with the person they like...I think it would start a flame war


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31 Mar 2012, 11:13 am

If we were to do this, it would not be to go "see?!". It would be about resolving an issue , not pointing fingers. Commenters would be expected to be honest and fair.


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31 Mar 2012, 11:24 am

Aharon wrote:
If we were to do this, it would not be to go "see?!". It would be about resolving an issue , not pointing fingers. Commenters would be expected to be honest and fair.


There's often a difference between what is and what should be. Even if you expect people to be honest and fair, there's no telling if they are, and if they will.
And unfortunately, half of the internet seems to be devoted to people battling things they disagree with.



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31 Mar 2012, 11:33 am

I think it's an interesting idea-
if anything, putting one's thoughts and feelings in writing can be immensely-helpful for people to understand each other,
even aside from any advice they might receive.


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31 Mar 2012, 1:52 pm

I think the idea sounds fun If I start dating again I will have her make a WP account so we can talk about our relationship in a thread.



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31 Mar 2012, 6:26 pm

While it seems like a pretty good idea in theory, to me, it almost feels like the WP equivalent of changing your relationship status on FB - you're probably gonna be swarmed with messages when you make it official, some or most of us members are gonna get annoyed if you post too much PDA-like threads, and you may wind up, like Alexender put it, having members picking sides as to who's right and wrong. It's bad enough that often happens on Facebook and IRL depending on who you're friends with - having it happen on WrongPlanet? I'll pass...