I am a gay man in my 20s, but I do not like loud music, alcohol, or parties.
I live in a large Midwestern city and I can't find anybody. The last man I was in a relationship with was a couple years ago. The sex was very good but the relationship dynamics failed because of me. I could not stand to be with him (or with anybody) more than a couple days (continuously) per week. I need(ed) most of the week to be alone. After work I need to be alone for an extended period of time to sort of "cool down."
I fear that this need to be alone most of the time means I will never be able to have a healthy relationship. Most people do not understand why I need to be alone.
Obviously, I cannot just walk up to an attractive man on the street and say, "Hi. Do you want to go on a date?" for a multitude of reasons including the fact that chances are he's not gay (I can never tell who is and who isn't), but also because I would die of anxiety before ever doing that.
I don't know where to meet people.
