Once again feeling like a fool.

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Hi,
I haven't been on in a very long time. Mostly due my tenancy to pretend autism happens to Other people lol... But here I am again : ) I've written here before asking how you stop loving someone. The answer was mostly Time.

Today as is my custom I woke up made coffee and looked at my FB page. I don't keep a lot of people in my feed so I click on the ones I want to look at. The "He" that I can't stop loving blocked me, page not found and he has 200+ friends... this is not an account delete lol. Last week he invited me over then told me his landlord (he rents a room) said he couldn't have company and sent me away...

It's not that I ever stalked him, like commented on every thing and posting all over his page and showing up at his house without invitation etc. Knowing that I've got this deep emotion thing with him I mostly left him alone to Avoid being a stalker : ) didn't even IM him if he didn't IM me first or respond lol. I'm also fine if he needs to move on... I guess what I'm wondering is do I have the right to feel like a kicked puppy here? After 5 years should I expect a goodbye? Is it ok to be mad? How do I deal with losing the person who called themselves my best friend?

5 years? I can only imagine... All you can do is accept it. Easier said I know.

By blocking you I feel that he did you a favor so you could move on. But yea you do have a right to feel hurt and upset that you are owed an apology/goodbye -- it's part of the grieving process to get over some one.

Yes, you do have the right to be unhappy about what happened. However, he isn't the only one who is causing the pain. You are also hurting yourself by constantly dwelling on a relationship that is over. It's like someone constantly picking at a scab. It hurts and bleeds more when you do that. Stop tormenting yourself. No more trying to visit his FB site, or any other contact sites. Don't be calling or emailing him. Delete all of his contact info (phone #, email acct. #, FB address, etc.) that you have. It's past time to move on. Wallowing in the misery of a past relationship just keeps you from being ready to find someone better.

Now, take some deep breaths, remove the contact info, and go find something to occupy your mind and time.