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I'm in love with an old high school friend of mine. I suspect that he might be a loud aspie, but i'm really not sure. He's childlike but mature and responsible at the same time, but the reason I think he's an aspie is because he LOVES collecting toys, he gets a little hyper sometimes, and because I highly suspect that his sister is an aspie. I know that's not enough evidence to suspect that he is on the spectrum, but because I feel his sister might be I feel that maybe he is too? I've hung out with her and she's such a nice person, but really socially awkward. She doesn't know how to approach people and often feels like an outsider, and she can't really make eye contact. Having a conversation with her is kind of funny cause we're always darting each others eyes LOL Her brother can make eye contact though, and he picks up on social cues, so I'm not sure if he learned quickly when he was younger. Also, since he is the older brother, perhaps he learned how to be social to be able to protect his sister since they were always together and she would always hang out with his friends. Anyway, I'm sorry to say this but i've always wanted someone who I found mentally stimulating, and I know that those kinds of people also tend to have a bad side to them, but I don't care. Bad as in, they can be really happy one minute and sad or angry the next. So now that I gave you guys a little back story, here's my question. Are loud aspies harder to detect? Do they learn social skills better because they are loud and put themselves out there more than quiet aspies? Also, do male aspies learn skills faster out of survival? I know that I didn't push myself to become social until I was in high school. People would pretty much leave me alone, that's why I think it's easier for female aspies to not get picked on so much. Thanks guys, any input would be greatly appreciated.

Well i've often heard that there are different types of aspies, that some are a lot more vocal than others, and some are really quiet. I was extremely quiet growing up, to the point where i couldn't speak because my words felt stuck.

I can never an answer when I ask what the differences are between loud and quiet Aspies, why is that?

It's a new term to me, that's why I asked Don't worry about it, I was trying to find a definition to give you a little bit of help. Anyway, in terms of 'finding' them, it depends. I'm sure you've heard the phrase 'If you've met one Aspie, you've met one Aspie'. I'd think the same thing would apply to a "subset" of Aspies

When I think of a Loud Aspie I think of someone more likely to have Williams Syndrome.

As in Robin Williams? LOL I could see that. Sorry AScomposer13413, I hope you don't think I was being rude. Here's a documentary of what I think is a loud Aspie (Ollie), one that's in between (Alex), and another who is extremely quiet (Tom). I could definitely relate to the quiet Aspie, he reminds me a lot of myself when I was younger. [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xSxgCguPEaM&list=PLDB628EDF41A7270D&index=88&feature=plpp_video[/youtube]

Hm...okay, thanks for the example, though I don't think it changes my initial answer

i give up LOL i think i'm starting to understand it though from that documentary.