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Zinnel
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02 Apr 2012, 12:19 pm

Honestly I don't think I'll ever break out of this label women put on me "the sweet guy"

Its seems so automatic that women put me in that box, that I can't evade it without changing some my basic core beliefs about equality, respect, consideration, and selflessness. I wouldn't mind it realy I like having friends of all genders, but because it seem every woman I meet pushes this label on me I feel trapped.

I guess Its my own fault though, after all I refuse to play the game. To doctor my impressions and manipulate the emotions of people by "playing hard to get", and it seems that people like me can only make the right impressions by playing the game. Which is sad I think considering that I like being myself and I'm confident that the person I truely am is capable of being in a relationship. But being myself as only ever gotin me the "sweet guy" label.


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02 Apr 2012, 12:29 pm

I associate Sweet with chocolate or toffees, never a term for someone.

The excuse is lame, but they use it as a template as they cannot be any more original in that sentences.

Maybe if they said "You seem a great type of guy I'd go for but", I would be more respectful of them but when they use the term "Sweet" for literally everyone, that term gets stale and with no meaning, fast.


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02 Apr 2012, 12:32 pm

People who still say sweet after everything need to be punched square in the dick. What time is it? 10:30. Sweet. Fuuuuuuuu



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02 Apr 2012, 12:35 pm

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:
People who still say sweet after everything need to be punched square in the dick. What time is it? 10:30. Sweet. Fuuuuuuuu


Woman don't have penises though, lol.

Joking aside, men don't say Sweet, they usually say Sweetheart or Love.


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02 Apr 2012, 12:39 pm

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Seriously though:

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I guess Its my own fault though, after all I refuse to play the game. To doctor my impressions and manipulate the emotions of people by "playing hard to get", and it seems that people like me can only make the right impressions by playing the game. Which is sad I think considering that I like being myself and I'm confident that the person I truely am is capable of being in a relationship. But being myself as only ever gotin me the "sweet guy" label.


I don't think you need to manipulate others, or compromise your core self to get yourself out of the sweet box. Sweet is good, but you need some ingredient to balance it, that's all. Developing a little edge, some assertiveness, or something else that you might be lacking that will turn you from 'cute and like my kid brother' to 'viable man to date'.


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02 Apr 2012, 12:47 pm

Half of the reason that I've never had a partner is because there aren't enough sweet guys out there these days.


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02 Apr 2012, 12:49 pm

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Half of the reason that I've never had a partner is because there aren't enough sweet guys out there these days.



There you go Zinnel, you're in.



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02 Apr 2012, 12:52 pm

I think with the word "sweet" women label you as "doormat".



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02 Apr 2012, 12:52 pm

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Half of the reason that I've never had a partner is because there aren't enough sweet guys out there these days.

There you go Zinnel, you're in
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^ I know I probably shouldn't laugh...but I am :D

But seriously Zinnel...be true to yourself...even if it doesn't seem like you'll ever be appreciated...



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02 Apr 2012, 12:53 pm

Moog wrote:
Developing a little edge, some assertiveness.


The strange thing is thoses are qualities I have though. Which is why I can't understand where the label comes from. Other than it possibly coming from the fact that I take other peoples thoughts and feelings always into consideration and maybe that makes me look less edgy and assertive than I actualy am. I just don't know :scratch:


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02 Apr 2012, 1:11 pm

Zinnel wrote:
Moog wrote:
Developing a little edge, some assertiveness.


The strange thing is thoses are qualities I have though. Which is why I can't understand where the label comes from. Other than it possibly coming from the fact that I take other peoples thoughts and feelings always into consideration and maybe that makes me look less edgy and assertive than I actualy am. I just don't know :scratch:


It doesn't really come across. Is that you in your avatar? (I assume so)


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02 Apr 2012, 1:19 pm

Be a little ass, believe me.

The good thing that you still 21.



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02 Apr 2012, 1:21 pm

ohh well, girls dont have me around long enough to call me a sweet guy



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02 Apr 2012, 1:23 pm

Moog wrote:
Zinnel wrote:
Moog wrote:
Developing a little edge, some assertiveness.


The strange thing is thoses are qualities I have though. Which is why I can't understand where the label comes from. Other than it possibly coming from the fact that I take other peoples thoughts and feelings always into consideration and maybe that makes me look less edgy and assertive than I actualy am. I just don't know :scratch:


It doesn't really come across. Is that you in your avatar? (I assume so)


Yeah, its alittle old but it's me. So are you saying that people judge assertive behavior based on looks, instead of actualy looking at the behavior it self?


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02 Apr 2012, 1:23 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Be a little ass, believe me.

The good thing that you still 21.

+1

A little narcissism won't do no harm.



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02 Apr 2012, 1:30 pm

Zinnel wrote:
Moog wrote:
Zinnel wrote:
Moog wrote:
Developing a little edge, some assertiveness.


The strange thing is thoses are qualities I have though. Which is why I can't understand where the label comes from. Other than it possibly coming from the fact that I take other peoples thoughts and feelings always into consideration and maybe that makes me look less edgy and assertive than I actualy am. I just don't know :scratch:


It doesn't really come across. Is that you in your avatar? (I assume so)


Yeah, its alittle old but it's me. So are you saying that people judge assertive behavior based on looks, instead of actualy looking at the behavior it self?


It's a factor.

You don't look like a hell's angel.

Aspies perhaps don't think about their appearance as much as NTs do. But for the most part, the rule is that outside reflects inside, and people will pick up on appearances.


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