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Alright well I'm still really happy at this encounter I had today, I'm feeling really good about it and I hope that it works out.

So anyway I was being my usual sarcastic self in my last class of the day because my teacher is kind of annoying and she doesn't understand question you ask. Apparently this cracked up most if not all of the class, so I guess I was really funny.

So after the class ends I'm walking to my car and all of a sudden I hear...

"John, you were really funny today."

I turn around and what do you know...it's the girl in my class that I have been thinking about since I came to the college last fall. She was the one that was in my class last semester and seemed to "look disgusted" when I made contact with her that one day this semester (refer back to my older post).

Needless to say, I didn't really know what to say because I was caught off guard and I was about 20 seconds from my car so I just said...

"Well...I try." Which got another chuckle out of her and then I just talked about why I was being sarcastic because of how our teacher doesn't understand anything. We said our goodbyes and that was it.

Now I don't know if I'm looking into it way too much but was that compliment that she said intended for me to ask her out or to give her a compliment back. I mean it was just a odd deal...she basically jetted up to me to give me that compliment so I'm worried that she was expecting me to make a move after that. I don't know but do you think she can tell if I'm interested in her, and if so, maybe she knows that I'm on the shy side so she figures let me try to initiate something.

So I'm a little anxious right now. I've been playing it back and kinda wondered what would of happened if I gave her a witty compliment back, which I wanted to like, "Well, you're looking really good today," but I was afraid that maybe she would feel creeped out by that.

I'm definitely thinking positive about the whole deal still. It just feels so good that someone like her seems interested in me, it really boosts your confidence and self-esteem. Especially because of the fact that I wasn't trying and I was just being myself.

Let me know what you guys think.

I think your right with this, she was probably trying to be subtly about it and give you a hint.

How often do you talk to this girl???, and if you have class with her just try to keep making conversation and then you should be good. I am a little confused about the whole "disgusted" look from before, did you possibly ever think that she could of been frustrated at that point because you kept eying her but didn't ask her out. Maybe she's been trying to give you non-verbal messages the whole time. I've taken a lot of communication classes and if you pay a little more attention to certain situations, you can learn a lot.

Good luck man, I'm still trying myself.

Dont ask her out just because of this.

Try to do something similar to what she did and see how she reacts. Find a reason to compliment her(bonus points if it isnt her appearance because she has probably heard that one 100 times) and see how she reacts.

If you are in some sort of hurry try to mention some activity you could do after complimenting her(Hey Im going to get some coffee after class would you like to join me/something similar)

If not try to establish some sort of communication for several days so that it doesnt come out of the blue.

Okay thanks guys for your help...I actually helped her and a few other people in class today with a advertising activity. We were trying to figure out the best solution for exposure while staying under the budget and everyone just came over to me and I explained it better than my teacher, cause she has no clue...haha.

Unfortunately I couldn't think of anything to compliment her on...I probably should of tried to act dumb with the exercise so I could of said like "Wow, you're really smart at this stuff." but the problem was no one else knew how to do it, lol.

I'm really getting there I think, I just need to hope for the right opportunity where I think I will have the best shot of pulling it off

I wouldn't try to 'act' dumb if you really aren't. If there's one thing women hate, it's deception. Well, she might buy it and start dating you, but if she ever finds out you're in for a world of hurt.

Don't try and act dumber than you actually are. If everyone's coming over to you for help, then that means you're ahead of the class, and there's one of your good qualities right there. I would still try and act like you normally do and not try and hide your intelligence, because believe it or not there are women out there that go for brains over brawn. Just don't get cocky about it and don't brag. If she brings up your intelligence level, tell the truth but be modest. Act like you're just an average guy who just happens to have an above-average intelligence. Modesty is good because it shows someone you're not going to judge them based on whatever qualities you have that they don't. It's like when she said you were funny, and you said "Well I try," that was modesty right there. If you had said something like "Yeah, I'm always making people laugh" or something, it would seem like you were being arrogant, which is a HUGE turn-off.

Haha thanks for that one, I probably would of made a fool of myself. I gotta stop watching movies because I see that all the time...just shows you my inexperience that I relied on that. That's naive.

Anyway the one remaining question that still lingers is when do I know it is right to ask. I mean I thought I knew whether that first encounter was the right time, but I didn't which prompted me to ask WP. It is obviously still new to me so its still odd until I get it but since there is limited time left, 1 month (which is about 10 classes) how can I ride the fine line between going overboard and rushing, and being conservative and running out of time keeping in mind that I still don't really see her enough to talk to her enough.

Well, if you think a few classes from now that she's being friendly, why don't you try to invite her out somewhere? Not as a date but as a kind of friend's outing, to try and get to know her outside of class.

My girlfriend Trish and I met at an event for our anime club at uni, and I began taking her places as "friends" and spending time with her before I asked her out.

To be honest, a lot of times girls will get the hint that someone likes them just from spending time with them before you even thought to ask. My ex-gf was the one who actually confessed to ME after about half a year as friends. It seemed like she was warming up to me, but I was still flip-flopping about whether or not to ask her, so when she took the initiative it hit me like the broad side of a barn. My current GF I asked about 2 months or so after we first met, but keep in mind we had been talking with each other every club meeting and I had walked her to the dorms after club every night. Plus we had been spending a lot of time together on weekends. Later I found out that she had gotten the idea that I liked her about 2 weeks before I actually asked, and was waiting for me to ask her. She thought that either her intuition was wrong, or that I was the shyest guy she had ever met. Well, as it turns out her intuition is never wrong, she has a sixth sense about people that borders on clarivoyance, so when I finally asked her it didn't come as a surprise. In fact, I remember a few comments she made to me prior that seemed like she was trying to hint at her liking me to get me to ask already. I mentioned this to my ex-girlfriend from back home, who has been giving me relationship advice ever since we broke up and subsequently became friends again, and she was the one that thoroughly convinced me to take the dive. I pretty much owe my relationship with Trish to her.

But yeah, girls sense a lot more than guys give them credit for, they just like to wait for us to say it outright even though they already know. Not sure why. But start inviting her to spend time with you outside of class for now, and see where that goes.

And, of course, may the odds be ever in your favor, because believe me when you think she likes you and you KNOW you like her but you're not quite sure if it's the right time to go for it, asking her out is about as scary as volunteering as a tribute in the Hunger Games.