Can Men And Women Just Be Friends?

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Read this article and you decide.

http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and- ... ends-women

I say:

Absolutely, they can! I myself have two female friends, although I don't get to see them as often as in the past. Their current long-term boyfriends (the girls were single in the past) have met me, and trust me to respect the boundaries.

In fact, there are certain demographics of women I prefer to have as platonic friends, rather than as romantic partners.

Yes of course they can. SMH at anyone who would think it isnt possible

What's SMH mean?

Are you sexually attracted to the women? Be honest.

Don't forget to vote, please. That means me too.

Is this even a serious question? Never mind!

Yes, very much so. Otherwise, I'd have no need for escorts. Gays tend to find each other very easily nowadays. But I'm a straight man, the most hated demographic in today's sexual ecosystem.

Anyway, I'm platonic friends with those two women because I value their friendship. Plus, we have a shared interest: Latin dancing. I can get sex for $300, with just a quick internet search and a 30-minute train ride. But good friends are few and far between, be they male or female.

'Shaking my head'

*edit because of that wierd emoji shouldt be there*

So you are saying if you were in a room with one of these women, unable to get out, no escorts for miles and no Latin music available, you would still keep your hands to yourself and have thoughts of what a nice platonic relationship you two have?

Last edited by nurseangela on 25 May 2016, 2:33 am, edited 1 time in total.

That's funny - I was shaking my head wondering what it meant! Who'd a thunk?

Lol!

This has nothing to do with the topic but can i just say i love your avatar?? I always notice your posts because of that haha.

I found another article :

http://www.artofmanliness.com/2015/10/2 ... e-friends/

This has scientific research from Wisconsin University that says WOMEN CAN HAVE PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN, BUT MEN CANNOT.

It says the following :

"Researchers found that while women were generally not attracted to their male friends and saw the relationship as strictly platonic, the men usually had romantic feelings for their lady friends. Not only were the guys more attracted to their supposedly platonic female buds, they also mistakenly believed that the feelings were reciprocal, and they were more willing to act on their erroneously perceived mutual attraction."

I KNEW IT!

It's absolutely ridiculous to assume men and women can't just be friends. Possible sexual attraction does not at all make friendship impossible. All these studies are just being misinterpreted.

The real question is if a single man and woman both be friends and only friends for life without one of them ever developing any sort of attraction to the other.

Not even a curiosity or any sort of passing thoughts. No 'what-ifs'. Ever. Period.

My answer is this is very difficult but possible, and even more-so harder the younger you are.

Teens are full of raging hormones and could develop an attraction to a friend, young adults have not yet matured enough either to be able to always and forever keep things strictly platonic.

""Researchers found that while women were generally not attracted to their male friends and saw the relationship as strictly platonic, the men usually had romantic feelings for their lady friends. Not only were the guys more attracted to their supposedly platonic female buds, they also mistakenly believed that the feelings were reciprocal, and they were more willing to act on their erroneously perceived mutual attraction.""

So true, in my experiences.

A male-female friendship it's so much more rare and unlikely for the woman to develop an attraction to the male than vice-versa.

It seems for many males they'd fall or just be physically attracted to a female friend with a 50/50 chance or maybe 75/25 (25% of female friends) but women it seems they almost NEVER are attracted to a male friend. EVER. And if they ever do develop an attraction it's the 1%.

Why sure! I just love Grumpy Cat. Have you seen the one I had before this where Grumpy Cat says that she loves her patients - when they're sedated? Right now Grumpy Cat has to be patriotic because of the election coming up. If I came back as a cat - Grumpy Cat would be me.

You should come up with a spiffy avatar too.

i used to be able to sustain platonic relationships with girls, but i think puberty wrecked that. i imagine hormones might be a factor for all the guys in my shoes as well.

i have tried with varying success to make more male friendships, as my last attempt at making a sustained platonic one with a girl ended in limerence. won't happen again.

i suppose i'm glad i managed to make my girlfriend exactly that when i did, before she lost interest in me and mine continued to go on.

if some smart person figured out a way to rewire the male brain to make platonic relationships easier...sign me up.