A question regarding calls

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So on tuesday I met with a few friends to grab some drinks in a different setting.
We had a great night(afaik) and people seemed to enjoy themselves.

Yesterday I went to this place with some other friends and one of this people was around and called me to see if I wanted to hang out so he came by.

He told me he had called all our male mutual friends and the females that were single but there was this girl that we had just been introduced to that was taken but with her partner overseas and he felt uncomfortable calling her even though it was a friends thing because we barely knew her.

I wondered why he asked for her number if he wasnt going to call her at any point but I agreed that he had a point so we both felt bad for not asking L&/P for their number.
L&P are a couple that just moved in and have no plans most of the days and since they are a couple we agreed it´d have been okay to call them and see if they wanted to hang out.

What Im wondering is if we were correct thinking that a taken girl with us would have been an awkward situation whereas a single one would have been okay or we are just to prone to over-thinking things(we did quite a bit of over-thinking between drinks so it wouldnt surprise me if it was the latter one)

The night was okay and I didnt miss this girl but the whole thing seemed a bit odd so I thought Id ask.

Well I've felt uncomfortable around women that are taken since once I know this, I hardly converse with them.
Though I do this out of choice rather than being ignorant. Don't let my opinion put you off talking to taken women though.

We talked the previous night without any issues.
She was in the group with our friends and we were only 6 people so avoiding her without being noticed would have been a little hard to do.

Its a group thats meant to be for open conversation regarding anything you feel like talking about, there is some light flirting every now and then but its only done between members that are both single.

Its just the first time Ive been hanging out with someone on a LDR so Im not sure what could be seen as ok and what could give her the wrong idea(in case she starts going to this group more frequently)

Hey

Don't feel too bad. You just wanted to have a relaxed situation with a mixed group.
It probably would have been best to invite her, though, and I'm sure she would have had fun with the other girls.
Maybe next time!