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19 Apr 2012, 1:00 pm

Are you attracted to guys or have you been attracted to guys that don't look at you at all? By this I mean any guy by the way.
You know... Looking at someone who doesn't react to you looking?

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19 Apr 2012, 1:17 pm

If you mean have I been attracted to guys and they do not seem to notice my interest, the answer would be yes.

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19 Apr 2012, 1:32 pm

Not sure I understand what you're asking. When you say 'guys that don't look at you', do you mean maintaining eye contact?

If I'm out, say in a bar, I avoid eye contact. Guys try to signal interest by making eye contact. I don't like that and I don't use it either to signal interest.

If I'm looking at a guy, I prefer no reaction from the guy to me looking at them. I'm a big observer. I'm not shy and can initiate conversation really easily so I'll go up and talk to them if I want to. I hate it when I'm looking around and accidently catch someone's eye and then get stared back at and I panic and think 'oh sh** he thinks I'm interested'. I am not interested in any guy from just looking at them. Interest starts from talking to them.

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19 Apr 2012, 2:15 pm

Oh gosh yes, especially when I was younger. It was pathetic. I don't look at guys too much IRL that interest me nowadays.

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19 Apr 2012, 3:54 pm

As long as we have common values.

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19 Apr 2012, 5:12 pm

Not sure. I usually like the tall, dark and handsome type. They never see me anyway because I'm 4'11".

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19 Apr 2012, 5:34 pm

nomadder, you kinda answered the question you was asking when you said the no reaction from the guy type.
Now I find this interesting for many reasons as I will gladly illustrate.
Both males and females can be attracted to a type of man/woman, whether you have ASD or you are NT, it stems outward from this though because of our own thoughts at the time.
Women will happily look at a man without being noticed but if a man looks at a woman, he thinks he is not worth it when she shows no interest.

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19 Apr 2012, 6:19 pm

That's a good point. Though, I've never really thought about it that way. I sometimes feel worthless, nonetheless. Depending on if I really am interested in the person.

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20 Apr 2012, 8:16 am

Kinme wrote:

That's a good point. Though, I've never really thought about it that way. I sometimes feel worthless, nonetheless. Depending on if I really am interested in the person.

To be honest I didn't until I understood it from that perspective.
Also, you aren't worthless.

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20 Apr 2012, 8:40 am

Never! If they're not looking at me, then I'm not looking at them!
SO THERE!! !

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20 Apr 2012, 8:49 am

RightGalaxy wrote:

Never! If they're not looking at me, then I'm not looking at them!

SO THERE!! !

Okay... don't hurt me. Cookie? Flowers?

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20 Apr 2012, 9:30 am

PastFixations wrote:

Women will happily look at a man without being noticed but if a man looks at a woman, he thinks he is not worth it when she shows no interest.

Most of the time we probably haven't noticed that you are looking at us, so of course we can't show an interest if we aren't even aware of it.

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