This is a bit of a long story, so if you don't want to read it's up to you.
Basically, I've been circling this particular guy, M, for a long time (e.g. years), and it happened that this year I agreed to move in with him and S, a mutual friend of ours who I've known for much longer (probably a stupid move on it's own I know). I figured after living there for 6 months that M had gotten over me, and I had started to move on. One day S, who's having trouble with his ex, and I had a big whinge session where he told me all the things about his ex that he was upset about, and I told him how I've been circling this M for years. Anyway, I went away this month and caught up with a friend who knew both of us from when we first met, and she told me all these stories about how he was obsessed with me and I just didn't pick it up. I was surprised and told her I thought it was the other way around, and she said both of us seemed that way because we're both incredibly socially awkward (well, of course, I have AS otherwise what would I be on this forum for? And M is fairly messed up and doesn't know how to act in front of people at all, and has no friends other than me and S). Anyway, I'll spare you the lengthy back story (and it's very very long) and cut to the chase. When I came home things were really good between us and he took me out a couple of places, I figured for better or worse, S had told him what I told him that day while I was away. We both went to a party last weekend (he never goes to parties ever, but offered to drive me and everything) and there was a guy there who I'm good friends with and I sort of like (we had been pretty close throughout the year), and I figure he sort of likes/liked me, except S was acting sort of domineering and as if I belonged to him (e.g. fairly early in the night he said 'well, time to head home I guess,' insinuating that I wanted to go home too, and we left like a married couple almost...) and this scared the other guy away.
Events like these reached a head the other night when we were watching a movie together on the couch, we were both laughing and having a great time, so I built up the courage to hold my hand out for him (figured holding hands wasn't that imposing, and the movie was nearly over so it wouldn't be for long), but when I did he just said 'what? I don't get it.' I asked for his hand and he gave me the one on the opposite side of his body, looked confused, then I said the other one, and he held it out. I said he didn't have to if he didn't want, and he held my hand for 1 second then pulled it away while saying 'sure...but...' and folding his arms. I watched the end of the movie in awkwardness then left to go to bed.
Although I haven't given much of a back story (have commented briefly on this forum about M before but that was, like I say, years ago now), I was wondering if anyone can offer me any insight as to what's going on here. It was painfully awkward and I feel like a complete idiot. Did I do something wrong? Is it all in my head?
06 Jun 2012, 6:05 pm
