"Cold call" etiquette

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So I met an artist at a gallery showing. A mutual friend introduced us, and we chatted briefly, but it wasn't super conducive to a one on one chat because she's there to show her work and mingle and what not, so I didn't try to monopolize her time.

We did exchange cards, I gave her mine, and she had a bunch on the table.

I'd like to see her again for lunch or drinks. What's the etiquette? Do I call her number, or email? What do I say?

You can say: I don't know if you remember me but we met at your art showing on [whatever date] be prepared to describe yourself in case she doesn't remember exactly who you are. Then you say you wanted to know if she would like to go out for drinks. Then wait for her response. I think that's the fastest and easiest way.

Call her.
Be brief, unless she leads on conversation.
Don't be pushy, and leave her space to say no.

"Hello, my name is <XXXX>, and we were introduced by <XXXX>. We talked a bit and I was wondering if you'd like to get some coffee together, there's this great place in <XXXX>. What do you think of the idea?"

Remember, if she says no, "I don't have time"... do not insist. Get over it move on.

Good luck!

Okay, now what if she doesn't pick up and I get voicemail? Is it appropriate to leave a message, and how detailed? Do I just ask her to call me back, or leave a message expressing full intent (i.e., "I was wondering if you wanted to meet for etc, etc, etc?")

You can leave the same message on the voice mail.

Just called her. She's spoken for. Worse yet, I didn't have a good thing to say in reply, and I stumbled in my response. She was very polite and kind, which made it easier.

Still I feel like crying.

Gotta give it to you for trying. She may be spoken for but you gave it your best shot. That's what counts at times like these.