Too normal?

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I went out last night for dinner and was talking to a friend. She's been looking at joining a dating website (she's NT). I asked her what she thought of my dating profile and she said it looked "very normal". She knows about my AS. I asked her what she meant by that, and she said that most of the dating profiles of men (NT men) she had seen were of men with huge muscles, like Jean-Claude Van Damne.

Is our supposed "normalness", ie not showing pictures of us with our huge biceps, a turn off?

Yes and No, some women like a guy who shows some skin because ether they like what they see or they see it as a sign of confitdence. However, some women think a guy who shows skin is just self-centered, and thus are turned away.

Its the same thing when women see a guy with an expensive car, ether (a.) He is over-compensanting for something, or (b.) It shows hes got style and has his life in order. Then of course there is (c.) which is they just don't care about a guy's car or his muscles.

Best thing to do is just let your profile represent you, and not to worry about what other people do on theirs.

She only told you what SHE is looking for - muscly, shirtless men. Those may get lots of attention, but consider the likely type of person drooling over them - do you want that kind of person? If so, take off your shirt and flex. If not, dress nice and smile for a higher-class woman.

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I'd take the "normal" labeling as okay. Could be worse. She could've said your profile was creepy, odd, disgusting or unusual. Good luck.

Not every chick is interested in those kind of pictures. I think those kind of pictures are best saved for when the person is in a relationship with someone, honestly. Pictures like that just scream tool to me. Now, a picture of your face smiling, or whatever, is a nice start to meeting someone. Chances are if you put up those kind of pictures (no shirt, flexing, and so on), the people you attract will probably be looking for short-term relationships and flings... unless that is what you're looking for, of course.

Honestly, I have had pictures like that on an online profile once, but I never reveiled my face or my real identity on that profile. I did get alot of responses though, but nothing that actually made me want to meet with the person. Only very superficial compliments, not really worth anything unless you need a selfconfidence boost when it comes to self-image.

Leave shirtless/flexing pictures for a later stage, use your wits and face to reel them in. A picture of your body with clothes on would also be acceptable. Remember, once a picture is online, it will stay online. Be sure it is pictures you could show your own grandmother and her friends.
If you do have a need to show pictures of yourself shirtless, I would recommend doing it anonymously without showing your face or any reveiling tatoos.