So there's this girl I met about a month or so back. I've become extremely interested in the possibility of asking her out. I have a question, though. Some people have said that we wouldn't be compatible, the "chemistry," wouldn't work. Here are some personality traits of both of us. Perhaps the population of WP can shed some light on this issue. Do you think we would be compatible?
Me: I'm an aspie. I'm arrogant, I'm extremely intelligent, but I have a strong sense of justice and morality. Sort of like an antihero. My sarcasm knows no bounds, but I can be serious when the situation calls for it, and I'm only sarcastic with people that I think can take it. I am also a willing recipient of sarcasm. Witty banter is one of my specialties. I'm a bit of a know-it-all, too. I read books on many different topics, and I am informed enough to converse and debate a wide variety of subjects, mostly within the realm of science, and I'm more than willing to flaunt my extensive knowledge if the opportunity arises. On the surface I am just a cynical, world-weary misanthrope who has little patience for humanity, but underneath I really love the universe and the people in it. It's all so beautiful and so unlikely. The people are, at first glance, little more than apes who live to survive another day so they can procreate and die. But when you look at each individual life everyone is so much more than that.
Her: I think she's NT, though she has displayed a couple of aspie traits. She is, in my honest opinion, probably of average intelligence. She's in remedial classes for all of the core subjects. She, like me, has a strong sense of justice, and speaks her mind, which is rare in today's society. Many people will simply watch as injustice takes place. She has a multitude of different physical problems, ranging from deafness in one ear to infertility to severe insomnia (There's more, but my point is made). This has, I think, had the effect of darkening her view of the world. She probably feels victimized. She's very insecure. I think I am, too, underneath my sarcastic, arrogant suit of armor. It came into the open recently that I like her, and she said, and I quote, "Why would you like me? I'm a horrible person." It really hurt me to hear her say that, and I did my best to convince her otherwise- because she really is a good person. She appears to be self conscious about her physical appearance, too, because she also said, in private, to our mutual friend, "Why would he like me? I'm not even pretty." It's besides the point entirely, but I think she is very pretty, by any standard. One of the aspie traits she displays is trouble understanding sarcasm. For instance, we were in a group and were talking about our views on the idea of an afterlife, and she said she didn't believe in an afterlife, that your body just rots after you die. Someone told her, jokingly, "Stop being so optimistic," and she asked (quite sincerely), "I'm being optimistic?"
If I had to compare us to birds, I would be a crow, and she would be a dove.
...actually, just after writing that, I thought about it briefly, and we even sort of look, physically, like a crow and a dove. She's bright and shiny, and wears light colors (white undershirts beneath light blue shirts, blue shorts, sort of blond-ish hair), and I'm dark and mysterious (white undershirt beneath navy blue shirts, black trench coat, grey-ish slacks).
23 Jun 2012, 2:35 am
