Smoking: a deal breaker or not?

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I don't smoke, and everything else equal, I would prefer a non-smoker. However, if someone is a great person all-around, I wouldn't reject them because they smoke. However, I would want them to quit before I would ever consider a marriage.

It is literally the case that I was once planning to ask someone out until I noticed them smoking.

Smoking is definitely a deal breaker for me. I'm allergic to tobacco and the smell is a major turn off. Even smelling it on someone's breath or clothes makes me want to cough up a lung

I definitely understand. I can tolerate a limited exposure to smoke, but after a certain point, I can't.

The other person has to be respectful to make sure that they can avoid smoking near me as much as they can.

I don't care as long as she doesn't smoke if there is a white ceiling.

I have no real desire to have a romantic interest, but if I did I wouldn't want him to end up like my father. He started smoking when he was only 9 and recently he has been suffering from a lot of bad colds and bronchial problems that he has difficulty recovering from. He quit several months ago, but I really have to keep my fingers crossed that he'll keep it up. My mother once said that if anything happens to Dad she will be so alone and lonely she will want me to move back in with her. But I don't know if I could unless it was for a short time. My mother also has allergies and asthma that's triggered by second-hand smoke, and as a child I was always getting really bad ear infections that might have also been triggered by the same thing although I don't think they're the reason my ears are so bad, unless people smoked around mom when she was carrying me and it's some kind of birth defect. I know smokers often think non-smokers are a bunch of "Nazis" or whatever, but I think I have pretty good reasons not to want them to smoke around me.

definite deal breaker. there is nothing about it that doesn't give me the heebie jeebies.

At one time I would definitely find it a deal breaker but I'm not in the position to be too picky. I of course would prefer if they didn't smoke but if they smoked on occasion but were great in every other aspect, I'd be able to put up with it. Chains smokers are deal breaker for me though.

Deal breaker-My father smoked like a train and he died in '06 of cancer and my mother who did not smoke died in '10 of cancer cause from Second hand smoke. Enough said.

Deal breaker. I've had a family member die due to it. I would seriously not be able to deal with it. Also my dad and older sister are really sensitive to cigarette smoke, it triggers their allergies (especially bad for my dad). I also hate the smell (and smokers tend to smell like cigarettes no matter what they claim). Just the thought of kissing a smoker grosses me out.

Well I smoke, I don't care if the other person does or not...but if they do I am in no position to judge.

As an ex-smoker it's hard to say...but I think unless they were AMAZING I'd have to say no to ever dating a smoker again now I'm smoke-free.

I don't smoke, and smoking isn't a deal-breaker, but I do worry about it being a potential fire hazard. If she does it outside, and definitely not in bed, not a problem. But if she and I have kids, I would not let her smoke during the pregnancy, and I would prefer if she be as far away from the kids as possible when she does smoke.

If she wasn't a great girl for me then I wouldn't be in a relationship in the first place. And I wouldn't let smoking get in the way. Not inside the house, but otherwise it would be ok with me.

99% likely that it would be a deal-breaker... between bad lungs and just hating the stench of it (same for yogurt) the person would have to be really, REALLY awesome to be worth it - and they'd have to be willing to keep it away from me as much as possible.

Absolutely not. I can tell someone is a smoker just by their smell; it permeates their clothes and their hair. If they're a heavy smoker it's even in the pores of their skin. And kissing someone who smokes? Yeeech!