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So going off everyone's feedback, I asked my friends if they knew of anyone who was single or who could fix me up.

Nothing.

Guys and gals I'm geting panicky. I haven't been on a date since mid april, and before that nothing snce the september prior.

I'm really trying to put myself out there, going out to try and meet people, trying online dating. Nothing seems to work. I don't expect to find The One on my next date, but the only way I WILL find The One is by constantly trying. But I can't even get that far, and I'm sick of being alone. I want to hold hands and kiss someone and go out for walk.

What else can I do? I'm really feeling despair, seeing people all around me coupling up, and I'm tired of missing out on such a fundamental part of life. I'm tryin as hard as I can but I feel I'm trying to surmount a sheer cliff...everyone else has ropes and I've got nothing.

Things you rush almost never turn out good.

^ This, and the people you interact with (regardless of if you're looking for a relationship prospect or not) will sense this. I've kept an eye on some of your threads, and based on that, the only advice I can give is to...stop trying It's understandable that you have a desire to be loved, but if that desire eclipses everything else about you, when that crumbles...what will you be left with? I'd say focus even more on yourself...and try to find other ways of happiness if this is racking you hard

But the point is I'm unhappy because I'm not doing well finding dates. I just want to do better and date more often, to gain experience and increase my chances of finding someone.

Because when I do what I love I isolate myself. I love collecting ballcards, restoring antiques, and doing claymation. How, exactly, do I involve or meet women through this process? The things I love are by their nature solitary, but they aren't enough. I need to interact, and I'm trying to do that, bu without luck.

What sort of attitude do you generally display? Do you often indulge in public self-loathing, such as posting Facebook status updates that reflect depression or dissatisfaction with yourself, or talking negatively about your life?

I only mention that because of this: "I'm really feeling despair, seeing people all around me coupling up, and I'm tired of missing out on such a fundamental part of life. I'm tryin as hard as I can but I feel I'm trying to surmount a sheer cliff...everyone else has ropes and I've got nothing."

I don't mean to imply anything and I certainly don't mean this to be offensive, but sometimes, things you don't even realize are having an effect are the deciding factor.

I have a friend who is constantly whining and complaining on Facebook and via texts that nothing in his life goes right (when in reality, he's pretty well off, successful in his passion as a comic artist, even is in the process of publishing his own series.) and he complains that he's single, and has asked if I knew anyone I could set him up with.. I wouldn't torment anyone I know with that sort of person, even though other then that, he's a great guy, and I've tried to help him get over it, which he rejects in the same breath he's asking for advice, and it does keep him from meeting interested ladies on his own; nobody wants to be with someone THAT negative. It's depressing.

I try to smile and look people in the eyes, and use positive words over neutral ones ("I'm doing great" rather than "I'm doing good.") I try to listen and ask questions and empathize and pay for the meals and just try to be gentlemanly. I dress nicely all the time, work on my posture and keep my hair combed, and my breath nice.