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Eureka7
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22 Jun 2012, 8:57 pm

I think I've made up my mind. I'm sick of dating NT guys!
Maybe the reason relationships don't last with me because these guys are just too different?

I want a guy that's just like me. Not the opposite.

It just seems a bit hard to find these aspie guys:/



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22 Jun 2012, 9:12 pm

Would be interested to know what "just like me" is.

I don't think it would be right to not give some people a chance based on whether they are NT or AS or whatever else. In any case I think you could still potentially be missing out on quite a lot of what very unique people have to offer. No one person is exactly like another.


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22 Jun 2012, 9:13 pm

Its not, in all likely hood there is probably some guy with asperger's syndrome within your city. So It shouldn't be to hard for ya :wink:

What you might want to do is focus on more what you want in a guy and less about whether or not he has the same diagnosis as you.


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22 Jun 2012, 9:21 pm

Where do I sign up?



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22 Jun 2012, 9:31 pm

Well it seems like the only people like me have aspergers:/
Plus I just wanna give it a try.

I just can't connect with anyone that's an NT. Not even my own family or anyone I meet.

I just want someone that understands me and so that I don't feel like such an alien.

I even considered just being alone the rest of my life...



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22 Jun 2012, 9:33 pm

It's taken me years to get to know people well enough to where I can feel any sort of connection or trust or anything of real value. Unfortunately by then it seems they've already decided I'll only ever be "just a friend". So I think it might be hard to find someone who you could feel close to in a short amount of time without taking a huge risk.


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23 Jun 2012, 2:58 am

WP is a good place to look for one.


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23 Jun 2012, 12:28 pm

Should I just post my profile then? Haha

I know I'm not gonna find my clone...(would be nice though!) But at least someone that I can share mostly everything with.



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23 Jun 2012, 12:59 pm

I know how you feel, I feel the same way,( just than I'm a guy wanting a girl. ) I am sure you are going to find someone, and this page is a good place to look. There's lotsa guys your age on here, and a lot of them live in the US. So yea, just have a little patience and you'll find somebody.



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23 Jun 2012, 1:51 pm

Well if you wanna meet nerdy/socially awkward guys, anime/video game clubs. They have them at most colleges I believe. Plus there's more men than women, so you get to have your pick and have all the guys fight over you on the sole virtue of you being a female.

One thing I think, though, sometimes friendships are less about understanding, and more about virtue. Someone can understand you and still be a complete jerk to you, and someone can not understand you and still be good to you because they're virtuous people. Just something to keep in mind.

Me personally, I either like people who seem to be female clones of me, or are the polar opposite of me, with nothing in between.



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23 Jun 2012, 2:00 pm

Eureka7 wrote:
Should I just post my profile then? Haha.


Why not? There should be someone close enough to you in Arizona.

Expect to wake up tomorrow morning and find 73 New Message in your inbox though. ;)



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23 Jun 2012, 5:44 pm

This thread is relevant to my interests.



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24 Jun 2012, 12:45 am

You should be able to find at least a few candidates on here--it's a great place for that.

Having recently met a decent number of attractive women on the spectrum, I can see why you'd want that mutual understanding. Don't be surprised, though, if the feelings you have toward/share with aspie guys are at least a bit different than the feelings you've had with NT guys.

Someone in my AS group has heard a claim that Aspies are a "third gender", and some bisexual people say that dating a same-sex vs. opposite-sex partner "feels different"--so it's not hard to see why an AS vs. NT might feel different to be with. I know for me the attraction seems to be on a different "level". I'm not trying to claim one is better or worse.



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24 Jun 2012, 12:48 am

Post your picture and then implement some sort of bidding system. :D



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24 Jun 2012, 1:09 am

I want an aspie lemon. Is that possible?