Unusually Emotional- Not Used To It

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So, as i revealed here not too long ago, I am now in a relationship. Things got serious quickly, and I even finally gave up virginity. Me and my GF are so incredibly perfect for each other, we are alike on so many levels.

For over a decade, I have had nobody to confide in, to tell the deep dark secrets from my early teenage years spent in hospitals for crippling depression and so forth.

I have always been the type to bottle up my emotions and never show them to anybody, and especially never to cry... until now. I bared my heart to my girlfriend, i told her absolutely everything, and she told me absolutely everything. Im not used to this raw emotion, I feel like she has unlocked and opened a long closed gate in my head and allowed all the backed up emotion come to the surface.

Since i met her, i have shed tears every single day. She feels sad for me, but i try to explain to her that she has done wonders for me. I told her that Ive never had anyone to talk to, and now that I have someone I can trust all this pent up emotion is pouring out. I discuss things with her that I wont tell my own mother, and she tells me things that she thought she would carry to her grave.

Do I have this right? Am I finally able to open up to someone? Or could this be my depression rearing its ugly head again? Should I shut up and just act happy with her or should I continue to work through all the old pain? The last thing I want to do is push her away, she is afraid of doing the same to me.

No it's def ok to open up.

My concern is that you should be experiencing catharsis soon.

Be careful not to dwell on the past, your future is bright now.

catharsis? whats that?

It's a Greek word that describes the process of crying, then feeling better due to the release of emotion.

I am just like you. I am use to bottle up my emotions. Even from my partner for 17 years. I just keep telling to myself that nobody can really love me and that I cannot give much so I dont end up so hurt when it ends. But you know what? You will end up hurt anyway. And I do not think you can really measure the levels of pain. I do not think that it will actually "hurt less".

So I say go for it. Be happy for as long as you can be. Tell her as much as you can while she wants to listen. Women love men who love to share, so I think your GF will appreciate it. Just remember to listen as well. And tell her how you feel of being able to tell her all that. And also tell her that you will not walk away because she is doing the same. That you appreciate that you can tell each other everything. Finding the right person is so hard and rear. I am so happy for you both.

yup, im there. She is a precious jewel that completely understands and accepts me as i am.

Sounds to me like your both worrying about something which can take over and you forget what brings you together.
Enjoy each other's company and be happy.
Seriously though these emotions are to be shared and taken in to a healing process which will work for you both.
Good Luck.

This is actually really enlightening to hear! No need to be afraid about it!! It's a sign of a healthy relationship! I'd say keep doing what you're doing - you two are bound to have good times ahead All the best