Getting divorced after 21 years

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Married 21 years and getting divorced. I got married when I was 42. I had dated and had girlfriends before I married. At 42 it was time to get married.

Well the marriage is over and I find I am no spring chicken anymore at 63. I have no great urgency to find someone real quick but I know I want to find a partner again.

Sooooooo, where does one start? I think internet dating is too much a shot in the dark. I'm going to have to give this some thought since I've been out of circulation so long. I never cheated on my wife in the 21 years we were married. Likely will not be too easy for an old aspie silver fox.

My parents divorced after about 24 years of marriage. My mother had mental health issues, and was nasty at times, too. My father went on to marry a co-worker, and they have been married longer now, than my parents were married. My step mom had nothing to do with the break up of the marriage. She is not mental or nasty, either. At least my father was finally able to have a normal marriage the second time around.

There are more older women around than older men, so you are likely to be in demand. I agree with you as to avoiding the internet for finding dates. As for where to find someone, here are some ideas:

- Take courses. It's a good way to meet people.

- Volunteer. There are people worse off than we are, who would really appreciate the help. It's also a good way to meet people, and boost your self image and mood.

- Take up a hobby or join a club. These are good ways to meet people who share your interests.

- Take dancing lessons.

- Go on cruises, if you can afford it--preferably after taking those dancing lessons.

- Get involved in community activities. Attend town meetings, events at local libraries and other local organizations. Attend local sporting events, fairs, and art shows. Attend and/or participate in local theater groups. Attend events held at local houses of worship. These are all great ways to meet people and boost your self image and mood.

Good luck!

Hi Pompei,

I'm sorry to hear about your marriage, that must have been hard. However, I do believe questor has given you some rather good advice as to how to get on the dating scene again, much better than I was going to post so in that sense I will not bother. But I will wish you all the very best of luck in finding what I hope will be your new soul mate,

Fiz

Quester has some great advice!

Pompei, I'm sorry about your divorce but I wish you the best and I hope you find someone amazing to spend your time with.

Ooooooh one of many reason why marriage is bollocks.