Moving in and scared to death

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Well, I don't know if that's necessarily what I really feel right now, but it's as close as I'm going to get.

My boyfriend and I have been together for about seven years now. He's a lucky thirteen years older than I am. We've had the usual disagreements of time together and money. We were engaged, then it just got too much for me, and I called it off, and we didn't see or speak together for at least a month. We've slowly worked our way back up to where we were before the break-up, even having me spend more time over at his place. As he puts it, I've put my touch on certain things, brought in some plants, taken over a side of the bathroom. What sucks now, is that he just got fired from his job. He's put in for unemployment and food stamps, but neither has been approved as of yet.

Tonight, we're going to take my parents out to eat so I can finally get them to talk. We're a very tight-knit family (mainly stemming from the fact that my dad's siblings basically don't talk to him unless they need something), so my wanting my parent's approval on this is very important to me. Now, it's not the talking that's getting me worked up to the point of tears, it's the actual moving out of the house that's the problem. We've never moved once from that house--dad has lived there since high school--and the only time we weren't there was either in a hotel or at a relative's house during vacations. I've always been around family in some form or another. Except for what I have over at his place, I have everything of mine at home.

I guess I'm posting this to see if anyone has any advice on how to make this smoother for me. That, and I need to talk to someone who already doesn't have an opinion on the whole situation.

I guess, thanks for listening.

Hi there. Nice to meet you
First, I have to ask since I have not seen any of your posts before, who is the person on the Autism Spectrum, you or the SO?

Haven't been properly diagnosed yet, but all the self-tests point to me being somewhere on the spectrum. I also have a suspicion that my dad is on it as well.

Well, you seemed to indicate the lack of employment from your SO is a bit scary for you. I would be even more scared if he makes no attempt at finding employment. I think that should be the first thought that comes to your mind.

Try putting it in this thread along with the one in the link below. You'll probably get loads more answers that way!

http://www.wrongplanet.net/forum32.html

Oh, he's already put in a few applications without any nagging, one being at the library I used to work at while I was in college.

Do I just copy-paste? I'm relatively new to forum postings like this. Bit more used to the facebook sort of design.