100% positive a girl likes me

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In our Dungeons and Dragons group, there's a lovely 17 year old girl and her father. I'm convinced the girl likes me.

There are some signs; I will say something funny. I think they're funny because, hey, I'm hillarious. 90% of the time, no one will laugh - no one but her. I find that she'll laugh at most anything I say that's obviously meant to be funny even if it wasn't too terribly so.

Today, she offered out of the clear blue sky, to loan me Firefly on blu-ray. Also, at the end of the game we roll to see who gets what loot we've collected in our travels. There was a +1 sword (+3 against goblins) that glows in the presence of goblins and goblin-like creatures. Everyone in the group wanted it. She rolled highest for it and just up and gave it to me.

Even if it's in my imagination, I'm going to go with it. I'm not going to pursue it by any stretch because she's 17 and I'm pushing 40 (and I'm married) but it's nice to feel liked once in a while. Not to mention not wanting to upset her father. That would be bad.

Going out with a 17-year-old girl, especially while married, wouldn't be very appropriate.
There is, however, something more disturbingly urgent in your post. Girls play Dungeons and Dragons?

which only increases her hotness factor by 11 negated only by her being 17. So we are left with a net score of -42.

That scared me too lol

I wish I had a girl who liked me in my D&D group (well, pathfinder, but same thing)

Actually, we are playing Pathfinder, too. Might as well call it D&D - people know what that is, at least.

Just remember, that's a child. Young enough by a decent margin to be your child.
Might take some of the fun out of the fantasy, but that might not be a bad thing.

And yes women play D&D, some of the best times I've ever had was playing with all other women.

You can't help it if she likes you but you can control as a responsible adult how much signals you give off and how much charm you try to exert. I'd say blend into the background until she takes less notice of you, take comfort in knowing you "still got it" and get back to the game. Sometimes the attention can be flattering and overwhelming for Aspies but you are still the responsible adult in the situation and it is your responsibility to make sure this doesn't escalate.

It's basically 3.75 from what I'm told lol

may i ask, what characters do you two play?

hmm... well thats a tough scenario to work out. I guess so long as you dont act on it everything should be fine.

No offense, but the last thing this world needs is another pedophile. Wait until she's 18. Then it's fair game.

I don't think his wife will agree with this, somehow.
It's amazing, the things people will share when they think no one they know is watching.

eh, then he'd be 41 and married
still not quite right

well its not like OP has said that he will pursue her. He knows its simply a small fantasy which is better left not done. I think most people in relationships do this every so often. Its a problem when they start acting on them.

I never argued that it's morally right. I'm just talking about legality. I personally think it's creepy.

To quote the OP:

I really wouldn't be so sure, MXH. Freudian slip, maybe, or just Aspie jumbling of words. But I think the OP is already getting quite lost in this fantasy. The wife doesn't seem to be as much of a problem as upsetting the girl's father....

Yeah, Grue, just don't pursue this. Work out whatever marriage troubles you are having, perhaps spice your sex life up and forget this kid. For your sake, for their sake, for their family's sake, for your family's sake.

I would agree 100% that she likes you. That does not mean she has a romantic interest in you. Either way it's of no consequence, but I know what you mean when you say it's nice to be liked. Does your wife like you too? Do you have a happy marriage?