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darkshadows1966
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02 Aug 2012, 7:25 pm

What are some good places for an aspie to find a potential girlfriend that won't seem scary and embarrasing? Just looking for a little help myself. And please don't suggest bars, i'm just not that top.



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02 Aug 2012, 7:29 pm

There is no specific place. You can't force finding love, you will find it by accident.



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02 Aug 2012, 7:30 pm

Have you tried virtual worlds, 3D avatar chat?
It's not the avenue I'd take, but just a thought.



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02 Aug 2012, 9:13 pm

I can tell you where you won't.
<------------------------- over there.


Anyway. In all seriousness, Get out in the world and meet new people. Try meetup.com for your area, and look for a particular interest that might have women there. I know someone else had this advice for someone else recently.



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02 Aug 2012, 10:23 pm

hansky wrote:
There is no specific place. You can't force finding love, you will find it by accident.


If you've been granted with the right physical attributes. That is, either being a feminine woman or a masculine man. Otherwise, I'd like to refer you to the thread about finding someone. It's less likely than you think! http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt205047.html



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02 Aug 2012, 10:31 pm

darkened alleys...









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03 Aug 2012, 9:56 am

HisDivineMajesty wrote:
hansky wrote:
There is no specific place. You can't force finding love, you will find it by accident.


If you've been granted with the right physical attributes. That is, either being a feminine woman or a masculine man. Otherwise, I'd like to refer you to the thread about finding someone. It's less likely than you think! http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt205047.html


Non-feminine women and non-masculine men find love by accident too. What I meant is that you can't go on a dating website, or any place really, and expect to find your true love there. You can't plan for someone to fall in love with you. And speaking as a fairly feminine female, it isn't any easier for us.



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03 Aug 2012, 10:28 am

BlueMax wrote:
darkened alleys...
:P


:lmao:



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03 Aug 2012, 2:01 pm

hansky wrote:
There is no specific place. You can't force finding love, you will find it by accident.

The 3 girlfriends I had/have were found by accident but they were all found on forums; 2nd & current were here on WP. I posted alot & got lucky that they saw my posts & liked what they saw. I never had luck on any dating sites or offline but others might.


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03 Aug 2012, 2:15 pm

darkshadows1966 wrote:
What are some good places for an aspie to find a potential girlfriend that won't seem scary and embarrasing? Just looking for a little help myself. And please don't suggest bars, i'm just not that top.


Join a club or a meetup group that aligns with your interests. Make new friends. Let people learn more about you. Things will go from there. Trust me.



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03 Aug 2012, 2:27 pm

hansky wrote:
There is no specific place. You can't force finding love, you will find it by accident.


No you won't. One of the parts has to make the first move.



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03 Aug 2012, 2:46 pm

Kurgan wrote:
hansky wrote:
There is no specific place. You can't force finding love, you will find it by accident.


No you won't. One of the parts has to make the first move.


I didn't say not to make a move on anyone.



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03 Aug 2012, 3:03 pm

Somewhere deep in the universe are like minded aspies. :)


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03 Aug 2012, 8:26 pm

darkshadows1966 wrote:
....a potential girlfriend that won't seem scary and embarrasing?.....


Sorry, but all girls are scary and embarrassing.



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03 Aug 2012, 10:57 pm

Kurgan wrote:
hansky wrote:
There is no specific place. You can't force finding love, you will find it by accident.


No you won't. One of the parts has to make the first move.


You're both wrong actually. In my experience, the opportunity for a relationship is purely the whim of Fate. Whether or not you chose to pursue the chance, however, is up to you. I've seen people here who are either so obsessed with finding a significant other that they come on too strong and drive potentials away, or so apathetic that they pass up a relationship chance even when it's practically gift-wrapped for them.


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03 Aug 2012, 11:03 pm

ArrantPariah wrote:
darkshadows1966 wrote:
....a potential girlfriend that won't seem scary and embarrasing?.....


Sorry, but all girls are scary and embarrassing.

:P

i have no idea what constitutes "scary and embarrassing", so i don't know what to advise the OP


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