Anyone else been ostracised by partner 4 not liking kissing?

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I am not keen on kissing especially with tongues and this makes it difficult for me with men and they have sometimes rejected me for it inspite of the fact that I'm ok with everything else. My current boyfriend is trying to train me to kiss him but I'm worried if I don't do it well enough I will be dumped. He said it feels a bit weird cos I have let him do other things and he feels we have skipped a stage. Has anyone else struggled with this issue? Should I keep it a secret from a partner that I hate kissing and try and fake it as convincingly as possible?

I love kissing, it feels wonderful but I don't like the dampness on my face after. I do wipe it and I don't think the other half appreciates it, bless him. So I know where you're coming from.

Absolutely. I hate kissing. I have been told I am a good kisser, but I don't like it and with someone who is a bad kisser it's just so much worse. My b/f complains all the time that I don't like kissing him (he's also a bad kisser,so even worse), or cuddling, etc. The wetness bothers me and I feel like I can't breathe as well. I have many environmental allergies that keep me stuffy often and blocking my mouth with someone else's is not my idea of fun on top of it all.

I'd say don't keep it a secret. Talk it out and see if you can work out a compromise. I don't think it will be a big deal for some guys.

Kissing doesn't come naturally to me either and it can be very unpleasant (not that I have much practice). Sex is the same. I try to be upfront about my issues, there is no point in pretending. In this sense I have found online dating helpful as I can discuss these things first. If the person doesn't get back to you I tend to think it wouldn't have worked out anyhow.

Oh good god don't keep it secret. That is really cruel to the other person.

I wouldn't say broadcast it immediately-
just casually mention it does nothing for you once he's gotten the chance to fall for you a bit.

yep..and it sucks

I love kissing but haven't kissed my husband in decades because he won't brush his teeth. I don't know why he won't but he just won't. He did when we were dating then quit when we got serious because he normally didn't brush them except before dates. His mother always harped on him about brushing so I guess it's some kind of passive aggressive thing. But he's never had a cavity even though he's hardly ever brushed and they look nice and white. Go figure. He rarely brushes them for me.

Sometimes he will brush them and want to kiss me, but I just can't. It grosses me out because he's only brushed them that one time. He's gonna have to brush twice a day for like a month before I feel comfortable kissing him.

My first serious boyfriend liked to kiss and make out, and he had good oral hygeine, but he didn't like to tongue kiss. He would kiss like you normally french kiss, with mouth open but he never put his tongue in my mouth or liked me to put mine in his.

I miss kissing.

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