What shall I do?

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I have serious problem

I was in relationship - relationship that at the beginning gave me hope, but evolved to toxic relationship (toxic for me), and broke half a year ago, and which taught me that I don't want any relationships in the future (I just want to be alone)

the problem is, my ex-girlfriend don't want to believe this.
She wants me back
She calls me, sends me mails, she says that I will be unhappy alone
She tells me that she really misses me - and she want to meet me

And I don't want all of this

I don't want to hear that "I act strangely", "she don't know what I will do" or that "I can't express feelings and I should do something with it"
not to mention that (according to her) I should change my lifestyle -be "more open", "more social" and change my dress style (like if there was something wrong in baggy clothes )

I just want to be alone, without anxiety and all this "relationship" problems

What should I do?

Go to police and tell about "stalking"?? - they will laugh at me
Change phone number and mail address? It will be real pain
Run away, emigrate to deep Siberia and ask President Putin to make me refugee?? (just joking)

Give me any advice

Just tell her it's your life, not hers. And you don't care for her opinions about you (some of them are rather rude and condescending to be honest). And if she can't keep them to herself, she's not welcome to speak to you. Then if she persists you start hanging up the phone, blocking her online, etc.

Tell her to leave you the f**k alone and if she doesn't, document her calling and texting and file a police report.

But, I think it's important not to give up on dating from one relationship.

I actually like the Putin idea. Hey, you never know.

You will always be judged for not being/thinking like other people want you to. The further you mind is from the main stream the more people will try to pull you back in. It's painful and it's frustrating. For a more discordian way of going about it prepare an hour long lecture on the benefits of being alone practice it. Keep it on your person at all times and the next time she calls recite it to her word for word she'll be off the phone in less than half of the lecture and she will probably never call again.