How do i tell him i love him?

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Hey everyone, i have a guy friend who has aspergers and i like him quite alot. I understand his syndrome and actularly find it easier to talk to him than neurotypical people like myself. Ive known him since we were kids and we are realy good friends, but i have devoloped feelings for him and wish for our friendship to become more. I cannot tell if he likes me back the same way but i can tell he has observed my routine and works with it, he also always wants to play computer games with me and talk to me over skype. We go to the same school he is one year ahead of me. but the boys and girls are seperated onto diffrent campsus (untill next year when he is in senior year and on the girls campus) he sometimes goes on my morning bus but chooses not to (so he can sleep in) so we hardly see eachother in person. I was just wondering if 1. I should tell him i like him more than just a friend. 2. If i do tell him if it will ruin our friendship (this has happened to me before with a realy good friend and it is awkward between us) 3. How can i tell him this. Lastly 4. What steps should i take before telling him?

3. "I like you as more than a friend. Do you feel the same?"
As for 1. and 2., you'd be better able to gauge the risks to YOUR friendship with YOUR friend than anyone else here would.

Liking someone more then a friend doesn't equal love.

Just tell him the truth. The worst that can happen is he tells you that he doesn't feel the same. If that is the case you will at least have closure and be able to move on.

Tell him, but get your head ready to be a good, kind and selfless friend first.

Think this through by reversing the roles.

You value your friendship with him. If he doesn't have a lot of friends he may value it even more than you. Imagine IF he wanted more from you than friendship and you didn't want that back, you would expect him to still want to be your real friend. So if when you tell him, he still just wants to be mates. Accept that and mean it. Don't tell him until you think you can do that.