Question to NT''s

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What sort advice u can give to aspies about things they we can do to improve your relationship with an NT partner ... From your experiences in life with your partner what are the qualities u think are really valuable to you and its important to you that your partner have or work on developing ...


Hopefully we can start an interesting useful discussion here...

It would be really great to open up a discussion between Aspies and NT's, but unfortunately, it doesn't seem to be of much interest -I see that I'm the only reply
I know that there are NT's involved with Aspies on this site. Where are you?
I'm involved with a man that I think has AS, and I'm finding it very difficult. Your
replies to my questions have been very helpful. Well, to start this off, I would say that
honesty and communication are essential. I think that any Aspies involved with NT's must tell them about AS if the relationship has any chance of surviving. Feedback, anyone?

Asking NT for dating tips is like asking a bear how to fish in the river. NTs cannot tell you why life is easier for them, it just comes naturally. They can only tell you when you are doing something wrong or right by observing you, but they can’t tell you how to use the paw.

Quick question here........

Does your NT significant other know about the AS?

SheDevil
(who is very good friends w/ an Aspie...probably closer than most romantic
relationships.........but without the romance)

Well i'm NT and the guy that I like has AS.... Maybe what i'm saying may be a stretch but I think conversation is a big think that means a lot to an NT...its not necessarily how much conversation but quality. I know that when someone talks about what they are interested in its very easy to find common ground and a good basis for the growth of a relationship. The guy that I like- we talk quite a bit (although not as often as I would like) but no matter what were talking about, its nice to hear his interests and for me to shut up (because when i'm nervous i talk toooo much! lol)

I think a good quality to also have (that I think he needs to work on) is honesty and being genuine.... I think this is very important. I would only want to be with someone who is honest and genuine about everything he feels...otherwise it can send mixed signals- signals that can make me think theres more to our relationship than he might want...and give me false beliefs about him (in my case that he was single when he wasn't)

Knowing how to successfully use body language is also helpful...but not entirely mandatory. I think the relationship can still get to another level even without this part but knowing when to intiate body language (like eye contact, touching when its permissable and you've built up rapport) can really help to build a stronger connection with someone especially if the other person is actively trying to pursue you...it can definitely help and make the person feel like, "hey, maybe he likes me too!!"

A few qualities that I appreciate in him is his general personality (he's seems secure in who he is, affectionate, caring, has genuine
hobbies, has his own ideals and beliefs and doesn't sacrifice them for anybody, and he's not afraid to give positive or negative feedback depending on the situation)...
I hope this helps!
C