Overprotective parents

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So my partial boyfriend and I are going on an outing this weekend and my mom, my brother and a family friend are going. I told my mom that if he asks to stay for the night say yes. My mom told me she wasn't comfortable with it.

We aren't that kind of couple. We hug and cuddle but that's about all we do. We don't kiss, make out, or hold hands.

I told my mom that if she isn't comfortable with him staying the night, it's going to be hard at this outing because well....you get the idea.

I think the best thing to do is for my partial boyfriend and I to go hang out somewhere away from my family and my mom's friend.

It's not like we would sleep in the same room. Even if we did, it wouldn't be in the same bed. The only noise she'd here out of us talking about video games.

you're an adult. remind your parents of that. you should do what you think is best.

Unless she doesn't believe you about nothing happening, or doesn't trust that ur bf won't try to start physical stuff, it's likely she is worried about the what other's will think. Perhaps she is afraid that the family friend will make assumptions? Or that people who hear about the outing will jump to conclusions.

You may be an adult but it's their house and their rules.

Wrong. The phrase "It's my house and my rules!" is just a bad tool parents use to cut off communication and maintain control. It is designed to shut the "child" up and keep them from presenting thier argument. In my experience, it is usually used when the parent has no real defence so they pull that card. This makes for an unhealthy parent/"child" relationship in a child, let alone an adult.

.... I also may have misread the OP... if she's living in her own place, the parents have no say in the matter beyond voicing their opinion AND reasons why.

Under their roof, they have a lot more say... they should still explain their position better and not just say DOITCUZISAYSO!BLAAAHHH!! !


(I had to cut the original message shorter than wanted... I'm sneaking in messages between work calls. You guys are my support group!)

Whereas most have reverted to the parenting, I have a different approach...

Have you and your partial boyfriend discussed the matter in terms of when this does occur? Tell him that you wouldn't be comfortable if he changed from not doing the kissing or anything further... to then doing so because you invited him to stay with you and some of the family.
Thus, he may understand.