I am sexually confused and scared, help?

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Okay, I am a male aspie that was traumatized by a pornographic image or three as a kid and grew up afraid of sex as a result, now some of that fear is gone yet nowadays my only interest in breasts is to hear a heartbeat and am afraid of mating with a girl as I fear accidently harming them in the process and because of the mentioned trauma, the moaning scares the crap out of me, da shell is wrong with me?

How old are you?
It's unlikely you'd harm a girl during sex, assuming you aren't doing so with anything stabby or pointy on you. And if you have sex with a girl you really like that really likes you, then you shouldn't worry about her hurting you. Do you have a girlfriend/wife/? ?

Youve probably had therapy for this trauma already, but it sounds like you need a reboot. Professional help that we cant give you here.

Don't let porn confuse your sexuality, because its not reality. If you're still watching porn, I suggest looking into the yourbrainonporn series. Porn confused me too for years, and ever since I stopped looking at it, my life is improving dramatically where intimacy is concerned.

How old are you? What kind of porn where you watching that traumatized you? Must have been some very kinky stuff.

Anyway, unless your planning on biting, slapping, spanking or doing anal, it's unlikely you will hurt the girl unless she is a virgin. Most girls know their bodies, if it's hurting she'll give tell you and probably how to fix it.

I am 20, now keep in mind I didn't know downloading video game ROMs was a tricky subject at the time and when I was on a site, it redirected me and I saw some images too creepy to describe, so safe to say, I did not like Family Guy growing up.

No GF due to everyone I want to see being really busy with college or taken etc

My guess is that sex will be completely different from what you expect. If you wait until you're with someone you completely trust, you have a better chance of not being horribly nervous and scared. And you can start small and work up to it over time increasing your intimacy with the person. There are plenty of girls out there that are willing to wait.

If it's bothering you horribly you should, as naturalplastic said, get professional help.

i think you need not be confused by porn..i really think it just presents sex in the worst way possible!!
You can not hurt a girl just by having sex with her...it'll be more pleasurable for both of you!

Thanks folks, I feel less paranoid about loving a girl now. *imagines being shushed to sleep*